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[–]peakingatthemomentTranssexual (natal male), HSTS 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Okay, I feel like I understand. I don’t think I sexualized masculinity outside of finding someone attractive.

Does styling (clothes, hair) or behavior play any role in your attraction?

Clothes can totally bring out physical features that I find attractive, but I feel like it’s more about the features than the clothes. Don’t be trashy though.

I’ve found guys with short hair and long hair attractive, although I’d be turned off if an otherwise cute guy had a hair style that was really feminine coded. I prefer short hair though. All the guys I’ve dated have had short hair and my husband keeps his short.

Behavior plays a role, although I haven’t analyzed it that much. I don’t like toxic masculinity or guys who feel they have to act macho, but confidence is sexy and I feel like confident guys don’t do those things anyway. I feel like a great voice can really enhance how attractive a guy is too.

[–]worried19[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

As far as behavior goes, I think I'd be sexually turned off if a man had a very feminine voice or mannerisms, although I suppose you could argue those are at least partly biological. But as far as hobbies or something, I really don't care what hobbies someone has. If a man liked knitting, that would not make him more or less sexually attractive to me.

[–]peakingatthemomentTranssexual (natal male), HSTS 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I think I'd be sexually turned off if a man had a very feminine voice or mannerisms

Me too.

But as far as hobbies or something, I really don't care what hobbies someone has.

I don’t think hobbies would matter to me in terms of attractiveness. I’m sure some hobbies I wouldn’t be to my tastes, but I feel like that would be different from attractiveness though, more like compatibility or preferences.

[–]worried19[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Same here. It would really only matter to me if he had an immoral hobby. A feminine one would be perfectly fine. I may not be able to relate, but I'd support him.