Interesting, sorry for getting in, since I'm not bi. But what it means fucking both the same why? Like you using a strap with both of them. An why seeing sex as wanting control or being controlled? Why not equality and mutual pleasurable. I do like more to being in control,the active, the giver, but I do like a mix of both and equal relationship (except with strap, if ever used I will only be the giver). I despise the mentality of seeing sex in fixed role when someone dominate the other, it's fucked up and abusive, and americans especially do have this culture of seeing sex in power play between people, rather than mutual equal pleasure.