Female exclusive bisexual females (febfems) by Newbie27 in Bisexuals

[–]GrouchyHierophant 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Seems like everyone hates bis.

You all, according to the lchat, I'm an ugly male troll. By the way, I'm not. Glad to have found this website. by Newbie27 in Bisexuals

[–]GrouchyHierophant 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

What's lchat?

Bisexual forums? by gloomy_bear in Bisexuals

[–]Newbie27 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

They call and refer to people like us as febfems as in female exclusive bisexual females, but I don't know if they have good forums for us to go to. I've been on reddit and was treated like shit for posting my views, so I avoid lgbt forums on reddit and other places now. I lurk on lchat, but they don't like it when bis are posting there.

Did you first think you were lesbian/gay or straight before understanding you were bi? Or did you accept it right away? by usehername in Bisexuals

[–]Newbie27 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I thought I was lesbian at first because I'm super into women, and I was always a tomboy growing up, very masculine, but I have found two males cute and very attractive, so I know im a bisexual. I would say it's 90/10 in terms of me being more attracted to women then men. I like my sexuality and who I am, but it's hard to not find my group of people online. Lesbians at least have lchat to go to, I've been on there, and have been rejected for being bi, been called a men lover when I'm a total girls girl. It's been a learning curve to try to find a good space online to share my views and opinions with. I totally understand lesbians need to have their own space, and I would never disrespect what lesbians had to go through to gain more acceptance in society. I wish there could be more solidarity between bis and lesbians though.

I'm a bi that prefers women to men in terms of physical attraction. I was banned from lgbt ainbow and actualesbians subreddits. Anyone have a similar experience?? by Newbie27 in Bisexuals

[–]Newbie27[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

To clarify, I'm a bisexual woman who strongly prefers women over men.

Are you only attracted to masculinity or femininity, or do you like both? by throwaway999 in Bisexuals

[–]Newbie27 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

My definition of femininity is a classically beautiful woman, who radiates a feminine energy, and carries herself gracefully, you'll know it when you see it type of thing.

Are you only attracted to masculinity or femininity, or do you like both? by throwaway999 in Bisexuals

[–]Newbie27 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I like femininity way more. I find myself super attracted to feminine looking straight women the most, as a bisexual woman that prefers women. I myself am very masculine for a woman, pretty butch myself. The type of feminine women I like are, for example, mariana larrabure de orbegoso who was miss peru 1998.

Do you prefer one sex over the other or both equally? by gloomy_bear in Bisexuals

[–]Newbie27 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I Strongly prefer women over men as a bisexual woman. I feel like this is one of the harder positions to be in because lesbians reject you for being men lovers, I never really fit in anywhere on the online lgbt communities, reddit was not at all accepting of my opinions I posted on there, etc.

What's the hardest part of being bisexual? by PatsyStone in Bisexuals

[–]Newbie27 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm a bi who's more attracted to women then men as a bisexual woman. It's so hard you're rejected by lesbians, I was treated like a pariah on reddit, I'm pretty much a women leaning bisexual woman , but i feel like I'll never find my people so to speak. I feel like I'm rejected everywhere I go to online on lgbt spaces. I was called a men lover on lchat, etc.

Bisexual forums? by gloomy_bear in Bisexuals

[–]gloomy_bear[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah I usually lurk the lesbian forums,never really post on them.

Bisexual resource. They even define bisexual as attraction to both sexes! by gloomy_bear in Bisexuals

[–]MarkJefferson 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

And why is it an "umbrella term"? You're either are or are not. This vague and unspecified bisexuality+ garbage dilutes the identity, and paves the way for posers and sidlers. It's like what Paula C. Rust talked about in her book. If you stubbornly refuse to define your own label to appear "openminded", "inclusive", and not offend the emotionally unstable, someone else(opportunists) will do it for you. And then everything they do or say can be sloughed onto you.

Be honest, what do you think of our flag? by PatsyStone in Bisexuals

[–]GrouchyHierophant 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I detest the symbolism, but I like the colors. We should reappropriate it.

Why when there is bisexual representation, it's always bi's in heterosexual relationships? by gloomy_bear in Bisexuals

[–]GrouchyHierophant 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yes, very true, although in this case it's monos looking down on other monos for not being "authentic" (or whatever you wanna call it), which is a different dynamic. It's more like gatekeeping then straight-up bigotry. (not to say that it's less bad or whatever, I'm just saying)

Why when there is bisexual representation, it's always bi's in heterosexual relationships? by gloomy_bear in Bisexuals

[–]bucetao6969 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

What do you think of the queer agenda on star wars they trying to put gay people kissing on the background at every scene lol

Bisexual resource. They even define bisexual as attraction to both sexes! by gloomy_bear in Bisexuals

[–]PriestTheyCalledHim 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Exactly. Even the Robyn Ochs stuff is boring and she did the exact same redefinition you wrote about.

Why when there is bisexual representation, it's always bi's in heterosexual relationships? by gloomy_bear in Bisexuals

[–]PriestTheyCalledHim 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It is the opposite way as well, especially among many gay men and lesbian women or the type who brag about or wish they were "gold star" types and who look down upon homosexual men and women who once had sex, dated, or married the opposite sex when they were younger, closeted/in denial, etc.

Why when there is bisexual representation, it's always bi's in heterosexual relationships? by gloomy_bear in Bisexuals

[–]PriestTheyCalledHim 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I don't know if it is rainbow capitalism whatever this is? I do agree that it is laziness and just pandering. I am not going to go out of my way to watch a film just because it has characters of certain races, a different sex, or it puts bisexual and gay characters in it trying to entice me to watch it or pay for it.

Bisexual forums? by gloomy_bear in Bisexuals

[–]PriestTheyCalledHim 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I didn't even know about r/bisexualadults why is it now banned from reddit?

Bisexual forums? by gloomy_bear in Bisexuals

[–]PriestTheyCalledHim 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

You can go on "lesbian" websites/forums and to social groups, bars, etc. It is NOT invading as it is not as though you are a heterosexual man or someone TS/TG who is insisting that lesbian women date and have sex with men.

I generally avoid reddit, Chan, and other websites as they are not that good and are a mess like you said.

I would suggest local bisexual social and discussion groups but they tend to be overrun with LGBTQWHATEVERUSELESSLETTERWILLTHEYADDNEXT and professional activist types. They are not bad for making friends but I am not there to talk about transsexuals, or anything not really related to bisexuality.

Why when there is bisexual representation, it's always bi's in heterosexual relationships? by gloomy_bear in Bisexuals

[–]NormalPear 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Would upset the audience. Not only straights either, and while I love my fellow LG, let's be realistic here. Some LG can be hypocritical about being "anti phobic". Homophobia is bad but these some will go off the rails when a individual bisexual does something.

It won't be "straight enough" or "gay enough." Bisexuals gotta "choose a side," and showing a bisexual who's in a opposite sex relationship while still being labeled as bisexual can get quite the reaction. Even if they never dated the opposite sex at all.

Why when there is bisexual representation, it's always bi's in heterosexual relationships? by gloomy_bear in Bisexuals

[–]againstpedorights 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

We will get you eventually

Why when there is bisexual representation, it's always bi's in heterosexual relationships? by gloomy_bear in Bisexuals

[–]bucetao6969 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Ohhhh you're a troll. This is a common response of yours.

Why when there is bisexual representation, it's always bi's in heterosexual relationships? by gloomy_bear in Bisexuals

[–]againstpedorights 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

We will discuss it in zoom later

Why when there is bisexual representation, it's always bi's in heterosexual relationships? by gloomy_bear in Bisexuals

[–]bucetao6969 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Hello sir. Why do you call yourself "against pedo rights"? Are you against pedo rights? Why?

Why when there is bisexual representation, it's always bi's in heterosexual relationships? by gloomy_bear in Bisexuals

[–]againstpedorights 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

High iq

Why when there is bisexual representation, it's always bi's in heterosexual relationships? by gloomy_bear in Bisexuals

[–]bucetao6969 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Because every media is incapable of creating new diverse characters, so they have to retcon old characters. Like we see new mermaid movie with black character and new star wars movie with female skywalker.

Now if a character was already straight they can't make them homosexual, so the best approach is making them bisexual. "Oh I was bisexual all along"

It's less of representation and more of rainbow capitalism.

Why when there is bisexual representation, it's always bi's in heterosexual relationships? by gloomy_bear in Bisexuals

[–]gloomy_bear[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

yeah I do believe it stems from homophobia

Do you prefer one sex over the other or both equally? by gloomy_bear in Bisexuals

[–]gloomy_bear[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

true, I agree with that

Why when there is bisexual representation, it's always bi's in heterosexual relationships? by gloomy_bear in Bisexuals

[–]GrouchyHierophant 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Because bisexuals are unsettling to monos. People who are not just attracted to one sex. It's easier to "tolerate" bis if they are in heterosexual relationships or het-passing.

Do you prefer one sex over the other or both equally? by gloomy_bear in Bisexuals

[–]bucetao6969 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Well they're silly goofs. Just like a mother won't love both their children 50/50

Do you prefer one sex over the other or both equally? by gloomy_bear in Bisexuals

[–]gloomy_bear[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Idk, but there's people out there that do think bisexual= 50/50

Do you prefer one sex over the other or both equally? by gloomy_bear in Bisexuals

[–]bucetao6969 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Bisexual = you like both sexes

Pansexual = bisexual + the T's

I didn't know bi's prefered the other sex more generally. That's interesting.

Also, how would there be this misconception? How can you even like both sexes equally? xD

Bisexual public figures who get respect. by PatsyStone in Bisexuals

[–]PenseePansy 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think this has something to do with the fact that: 1.] public figures outside the entertainment sphere are disproportionately men; and 2.] bisexuality is even more stigmatized in men than in women (probably because the latter are simply understood as straight).

So bi men are less likely to be out about it. And, if they are? The media generally just reports them as gay anyway.

Bisexual resource. They even define bisexual as attraction to both sexes! by gloomy_bear in Bisexuals

[–]MarkJefferson 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm always afraid to dig too deep into these sites, in case I find something objectionable..

Bisexual resource. They even define bisexual as attraction to both sexes! by gloomy_bear in Bisexuals

[–]gloomy_bear[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Damn! I thought they were a good one! (;¬_¬)

Do you prefer one sex over the other or both equally? by gloomy_bear in Bisexuals

[–]MarkJefferson 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Exactly Equally. I don't think there is a preference for me. But, there probably is when it comes to the general bi population.

Bisexual resource. They even define bisexual as attraction to both sexes! by gloomy_bear in Bisexuals

[–]MarkJefferson 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Nah, Fuck that site: https://twitter.com/BiDotOrg/status/1564802381799620608?t=NpIqr0KVQ_tt7lH3gOKFnA&s=19

And fuck them again for fucking with the definition of bisexuality: https://bi.org/en/101/bisexuality

And again for their stupid explanation of the shortened form of bisexual: https://bi.org/en/101/when-to-use-bi-vs-bisexual

how do you feel about femboys? by yelgy in Bisexuals

[–]yelgy[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

no thoughts or feelings whatsoever?

Bisexual forums? by gloomy_bear in Bisexuals

[–]Lizzythelezzo 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

There is a o/LovingWomen section on Ovarit, which is inclusive of all same-sex attracted women. If you are looking for something that welcomes bisexual men, you could try r/bisexualadults on Reddit.

Are you only attracted to masculinity or femininity, or do you like both? by throwaway999 in Bisexuals

[–]BiHorror 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

My personal definition? Femininity to me is someone who's "soft" (note: NOT in a bad way). They're gentle, nurturing, caring, etc. For masculinity, someone who's tough in one word. Someone who can take the lead.

This also involves appearance but I won't get into that.

I like feminine women. For men, I like masculine men. So both but for specific sexes? I mean, I could like masculine women, but there's a specific type of masculine that I like (which borders more onto androgynous if anything). Not necessarily into feminine men.

Are you only attracted to masculinity or femininity, or do you like both? by throwaway999 in Bisexuals

[–]BiHorror 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

The argument that all gendered behavioral differences are learned is tired and false. Yes, it's a generalization, but on average, there are observable behavioral differences between males and females, even in early childhood.

This. This gets so tiring. I understand that some are doing this with good intent to remove stereotypes and all but... There is some truth to behavioral differences when it comes to sexes. You could literally find some of these patterns from the most known countries in the world, to the most excluded groups. You can't just sit here and really say that's all "learned" when even these isolated groups show those similar differences and how they react to it.

Bisexual public figures who get respect. by PatsyStone in Bisexuals

[–]BiHorror 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I would've said Janelle Monroe, especially since she was mentioned here to in the past... But, as of lately, she's been on the TRA/non-binary train (she claims she's non binary now...).

Edit: this was also a good question, because now that I think about, I actually couldn't think of any bisexual figures who get respect... Too bad no one else commented here.

Be honest, what do you think of our flag? by PatsyStone in Bisexuals

[–]BiHorror 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Personally, I like it. Especially given the color meanings. Plus, it's certainly better than some of the newest flags (cough LGBT rainbow, trans, POC, AND intersex all put into ONE flag cough).

Amber Heard by PatsyStone in Bisexuals

[–]BiHorror 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Late AF reply (just came back from a break from this site) but I didn't know she was bisexual... Either way, bisexual or not, that's straight up disgusting of her. Don't know why people would support her...

I always wondered why older bisexuals were so jaded and bitter... by PatsyStone in Bisexuals

[–]MarkJefferson 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

What a hypocrite.

Be honest, what do you think of our flag? by PatsyStone in Bisexuals

[–]Greykittymomma 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Better than the flags coming out now I suppose. I still prefer the basic rainbow but I feel I need to represent the bi flag just in case someone mistakes me for pansexual, which is just a bullshit made up way to say "I'm bi but I think I'm more special than the other bi people."

Be honest, what do you think of our flag? by PatsyStone in Bisexuals

[–]PatsyStone[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That shade of magenta was really popular in the late 90s.

Be honest, what do you think of our flag? by PatsyStone in Bisexuals

[–]PatsyStone[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That is a good point I hadn't thought of.

Be honest, what do you think of our flag? by PatsyStone in Bisexuals

[–][deleted] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I've always loved art with pink-blue-purple colour schemes - it has nothing to do with my sexuality. Ever since I was a kid and knew nothing about the LGB(et al.) community, I've just always liked that colour scheme the most. It's got great harmony. It's everywhere in vaporwave/synthwave aesthetics, and it's the main reason why I was so into vapor & synth as a teen. So I was somewhat pleasantly surprised to find out that the bi flag had it too.

With all that being said, those shades in particular are.... not my favourite. Don't know why Michael chose (in my opinion) some of the ugliest shades of pink/blue/purple for our flag. It could have been so much prettier...

Be honest, what do you think of our flag? by PatsyStone in Bisexuals

[–]MarkJefferson 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think the hot pink is bit bold(though admittedly it would be boring without the highlight), but I like how the purple is basically being squeezed into a thin strip in the middle between homo- and hetero-sexualism. Which is like- reality..

Be honest, what do you think of our flag? by PatsyStone in Bisexuals

[–]MarkJefferson 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Wikipedia:

The pink color represents sexual attraction to the same sex only (gay and lesbian). The blue represents sexual attraction to the opposite sex only (straight) and the resultant overlap color purple represents sexual attraction to both sexes (bi).

— Michael Page

Amber Heard by PatsyStone in Bisexuals

[–]PatsyStone[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

She's all yours 🤢

Amber Heard by PatsyStone in Bisexuals

[–]yelgy 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

no upvotes?

Be honest, what do you think of our flag? by PatsyStone in Bisexuals

[–]yelgy 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

hideous

Be honest, what do you think of our flag? by PatsyStone in Bisexuals

[–]PatsyStone[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I obviously don't like it. It was designed in 1998 and it looks like it. I also think the blue for men, pink for women, purple for mixing them symbolism is a little trite.

Types of bisexuality by [deleted] in Bisexuals

[–]MarkJefferson 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Both 1 and 3.

There is prob no either Masculinity or Femininity behavioral(?) preference for me. Their sex is the most important aspect, followed by looks and personality. Though, if I had to pick- someone in the middle of the continuum. But I am attracted to both.

For different times and different people, I have been assumed to be both. But I think that's rather common for a lot of people whose behavior overall is not particularly masculine or feminine.

Amber Heard by PatsyStone in Bisexuals

[–]yelgy 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

i'd fuck her.

s/lgbdropthet? by [deleted] in Bisexuals

[–]MarkJefferson 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Hi; I'm doing ok.

s/lgbdropthet? by [deleted] in Bisexuals

[–][deleted] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Really? Thanks for letting me know!

s/lgbdropthet? by [deleted] in Bisexuals

[–]Greykittymomma 4 insightful - 5 fun4 insightful - 4 fun5 insightful - 5 fun -  (0 children)

Whaaat did I miss now. Fuck sake! Can I have nothing!

s/lgbdropthet? by [deleted] in Bisexuals

[–]PatsyStone 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

There's a post on the said it front page about it.

Hi, by the way 👋 hope you're doing alright.

s/lgbdropthet? by [deleted] in Bisexuals

[–]MarkJefferson 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Have you submitted a request? If you get in you can read it all for yourself...

A bisexual gossip thread by PatsyStone in Bisexuals

[–]PatsyStone[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Something having to do with bisexual people in some way.

A bisexual gossip thread by PatsyStone in Bisexuals

[–]PriestTheyCalledHim 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

What sort of gossip are you interested in?

Is Pete Buttigieg bisexual? by PatsyStone in Bisexuals

[–]PatsyStone[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah, it's just something is off with him and I just get the feeling. So, you know, I have zero proof.

A bisexual gossip thread by PatsyStone in Bisexuals

[–]PatsyStone[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

No, I don't have a source, it's gossip.

Show me what you got!

Anyone else confused about their sexuality? by suzew in Bisexuals

[–]CleverFoolOfEarth 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Bro, I think this is weird and misandristic, and I'm a sex-separatist that thinks men and women shouldn't ever interact in person and doesn't believe that sex between opposite-sex couples can ever truly be consensual. If I'm concerned that you have fucked-up sexist moral jankery behind your views on sex, uh, yeah, rethink your biases, dude.

Is it just me, or have all/the vast majority of the people you've dated been bi? by usehername in Bisexuals

[–]PriestTheyCalledHim 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yes.

How do you feel about lesbian/gay-only spaces that exclude bisexuals? by usehername in Bisexuals

[–]PriestTheyCalledHim 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I have never had this happen, but I blend in well I suppose?

Anyone else have extremely good luck finding other bisexuals? by usehername in Bisexuals

[–]PriestTheyCalledHim 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yes but two of my longest partnerships/relationships have been with other bisexual men. There is a 3rd bisexual man I am considering dating but he has yet to take any covid vaccines and we live in an area with a super high population and many people have or have had covid.I am vaccinated.

How do you feel about people who refuse to date bisexuals? by usehername in Bisexuals

[–]PriestTheyCalledHim 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I am not sure if 'the majority of bisexuals think they are or identify as straight/hetero first...' I thought I was gay/homosexual and was not sexually attracted to women until I was older. I know other bisexual men who are also like this.

How do you feel about people who refuse to date bisexuals? by usehername in Bisexuals

[–]PriestTheyCalledHim 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I became very angry at a gay friend who I literally grew up with, as a close family friend, who knows I am bisexual and he emailed me something about how "bisexual men spread sexual diseases so I would never sleep with one or date a bisexual man..." I remember he identified as bisexual before he came out as gay. I know he has had certain STDs and is not always the best at having safe sex, except for using condoms usually always for anal sex, and he has had unsafe sex with gay men who were HIV+ and not on meds. No I never have had sex or dated him it would be too weird, and I do not have any sexual attraction to him and never have.

A bisexual gossip thread by PatsyStone in Bisexuals

[–]PriestTheyCalledHim 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Hmm? Do you have a link to this? Anyone can claim anything online...

As for gossip, which type?

Thoughts on the split-attraction model? by usehername in Bisexuals

[–]PriestTheyCalledHim 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It just makes bisexuality even more confusing to nin-bisexuals, and nobody that is biIRL goes around saying things like 'Hi my name is...and I am a biromantic bisexual!'

How many of you have bi friends irl? by ElectricSheep in Bisexuals

[–]PriestTheyCalledHim 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yes, several.

Is Pete Buttigieg bisexual? by PatsyStone in Bisexuals

[–]PriestTheyCalledHim 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Huh? He says he is gay, so I guess he has no sexual attraction to women. He might have had sex with women when he was not out, closeted, in denial as this is not uncommon but I know multiple gay men who had sex with women when they were not out, out of familial pressure, had no way of meeting gay and bisexual men (this was in the late 1970s and very early 1980s) etc. they said sex with women just showed them how they are not sexually attracted to any woman at all.

I always wondered why older bisexuals were so jaded and bitter... by PatsyStone in Bisexuals

[–]PriestTheyCalledHim 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I became very angry at a gay friend who I literally grew up with, as a close family friend, who knows I am bisexual and he emailed me something about how "bisexual men spread sexual diseases so I would never sleep with one..." When I know he has had certain STDs and is not always the best at having safe sex, except for using condoms usually always for anal sex, and he has had unsafe sex with gay men who were HIV+ and not on meds.

women relationships by [deleted] in Bisexuals

[–]soundsituation 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

It has meaning, but the message is the opposite of what you might expect. All that stuff signals to me that a woman isn't attracted to me. Sexual attraction creates tension and anxiety (just normal situational anxiety, not the pathological kind), even in confident women. If there's easy breeze friendliness I know it's most likely platonic. If I feel tension on the other hand I know we're doing the dance.

Anyone else confused about their sexuality? by suzew in Bisexuals

[–]ElectricSheep 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

So women aren't horny? Or do you only care about objectification where it concerns women, and not men? Take one look at the explosion of onlyfans and tell me women do not objectify or sexualize themselves, with pride and joy, explicitly for the purpose of sexual gratification, by their own accord.

Or do you think men should be punished for having sex drives? Do you think women don't have that, or are they just magically exempt from the same scrutiny?

How does this relate to your sexuality?

Does anyone else feel broken because of their fluctuating attraction? by cryptoterfthrow in Bisexuals

[–]suzew 2 insightful - 3 fun2 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

I do not feel broken. Sexuality doesn't define a person. For me, I'm not sure what my sexuality ultimately will be. I am currently leaning more towards gay in the bisexual spectrum. I get off to gay porn.

Are you only attracted to masculinity or femininity, or do you like both? by throwaway999 in Bisexuals

[–]suzew 2 insightful - 3 fun2 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

I like both

Does anyone else feel broken because of their fluctuating attraction? by cryptoterfthrow in Bisexuals

[–]ElectricSheep 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Not broken but it is annoying. And in the instances where the heart says yes but the brain says no (or vice versa) are very annoying.

My solution is to just forget about it and focus on other things.

When are bisexuals going to contribute to gay rights? by throwaway999 in Bisexuals

[–]ElectricSheep 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I have a feeling I'll regret this, but I'll bite

What are you on about

Discord serve link expired? by [deleted] in Bisexuals

[–][deleted] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That's unfortunate. And yes the internet was way better before the started controlling speech. I've found other bi communities to join so I hope we are able to stay afloat. Cheers.

Bisexual Men: Experiences w/ Internalized Homophobia by usehername in Bisexuals

[–]Taln_Reich 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

for me, it was more than a decade past the point where I really should have realised that I'm not straight, and even when I actually managed to sit down and break though it all, I still felt quite some resistance until I actually was willing to admitt it to myself. And then it still took me another 1 1/2 years until I dared to come out.

What memories stand out for you with noticing you were both opposite-sex and same-sex attracted? by [deleted] in Bisexuals

[–]grassfed 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

What didnt

What do you think others mistake and/or need to realize about bisexuality? by [deleted] in Bisexuals

[–]TwoProngs 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm assumed to be open to ANYTHING, like bisexuals are a blank slate to be painted on... I've gotten numerous offers for kink/BDSM and many other things...

What I've seen is that a plethora of people who are into alternatives such as BDSM do identify as bisexual, as opposed to a general-population breakdown of sexual identity. Or, in other words, why is it that "bisexuals" commonly have something else going on? Which isn't to say that there are no plain bisexuals out there, obviously there are. Put yet another way: sample sexual subcultures, find a multitude of "bisexuals."

It begs the question "why?" Are they bisexual or... are they into their "thing" and sex (male/female) takes a backseat? There is this huge dearth of "bisexual community," but when you stick your head into one of these subcultures, "bisexuals," everywhere.

Yet, their sexual identity isn't leading with bisexual, it's leading with whatever their thing is.

Suppose for the first thirty years of your life you had a concept of apples and oranges. Then one day, someone hands you a lemon. That does not mean that your understanding of an apple or an orange was wrong, it was entirely correct. Still is: there are apples and oranges. But what do do with the lemon? It is more similar to the orange, but it is not an orange, and it is certainly not an apple. Is the lemon an orange? Or does the new-found lemon mean that perhaps so far, you've been right, but there are other things one must consider?

Or you could be naive and just say, well the lemon is most similar to the orange, and after all, the Nobel committee in 2021 awarded one of those coveted awards to some researchers that demonstrated that the lemon and orange scents/flavors are just identical but mirror-image molecules etc., so, they're the same thing.

But this would not be entirely your doing. What is better? To admit to oneself that they have a deep-seated, immutable, atypical sexuality or to join the ever-growing, celebrated Parthenon of letters? That they are bisexual?

Discord serve link expired? by [deleted] in Bisexuals

[–]MarkJefferson 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Oh no. Why was it removed? There are so little bisexual spaces that don't subscribe to gender ideology.

Their stance on gender ideology is probably why it was removed.

It's getting harder and hard to find thriving underground communities

Since Discord is going the way of Reddit(Ideological rot) whether or not Microsoft buys it, the bigger hubs for speech and discussion are fading away. Even if someone got it in their head to start another space like the server, it might have to be on some independent offsite, or alt-tech forum/app developed by counterculture types.

I do miss the internet from a mere half decade ago. People were right to say that we are only a generation away from a thought crime dystopia at any time. The metaphorical frog boils even faster now.

What do you think others mistake and/or need to realize about bisexuality? by [deleted] in Bisexuals

[–]PenseePansy 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That it's a sexual orientation. Nothing more, nothing less.

And that "sexual orientation" does NOT equal "monosexual". Being attracted to only one of the two sexes isn't required. Just that you're attracted to (i.e., oriented towards) people based on their biological sex. Which, like both homosexuals and heterosexuals, we are.

Merry Christmas, bisexuals. by PatsyStone in Bisexuals

[–][deleted] 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Happy Holidays and have a wonderful New Year Bisexuals!! 🎄

Discord serve link expired? by [deleted] in Bisexuals

[–][deleted] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Oh no. Why was it removed? There are so little bisexual spaces that don't subscribe to gender ideology. It's getting harder and hard to find thriving underground communities :(

Merry Christmas, bisexuals. by PatsyStone in Bisexuals

[–]MarkJefferson 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Lol

Merry Christmas to every lurker

Discord serve link expired? by [deleted] in Bisexuals

[–]NutterButterFlutter[M] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Ahhh, that's too bad. I'll remove the link from the sidebar.

Discord serve link expired? by [deleted] in Bisexuals

[–]MarkJefferson 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That server is gone, sorry. Been a couple months now.

I always wondered why older bisexuals were so jaded and bitter... by PatsyStone in Bisexuals

[–]throwaway999 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

What does this mean?

Democrats Put Out 'Help Wanted' Ad For Submissive, Obedient Woman To Replace Sinema by PatsyStone in Bisexuals

[–]PatsyStone[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

A bisexual in the (fake) news.

What is biphobia? by usehername in Bisexuals

[–]PenseePansy 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Well, I think the previous commenters already did.

But if you're looking for the in-a-nutshell version, here's one word that sums it up: monosexism.

That's the basis for all of the anti-bisexual attitudes which others have mentioned, I think. The assumption that sexual orientation = monosexual (because, for most people, this is indeed the case). And that, therefore, there is no such thing as bisexuality: it's not a sexual orientation at all. Hence the alternate "explanations" for it: being confused, indecisive, wishy-washy, immature, slutty, phony, etc. And the erasure (cuz, after all, we don't exist).

What do you think others mistake and/or need to realize about bisexuality? by [deleted] in Bisexuals

[–]PatsyStone 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It's the biggest hurdle I've faced with gays and lesbians, they want to know what I'm for. Nothing. I'm just here 😄

What do you think others mistake and/or need to realize about bisexuality? by [deleted] in Bisexuals

[–]cryptoterfthrow 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Thinking about how others view you can aide in self introspection. Nothing wrong with that. Besides, this being asked on the sub once doesn't mean that we think about it all day.

What do you think others mistake and/or need to realize about bisexuality? by [deleted] in Bisexuals

[–][deleted] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I realised that I needed to stop comparing the degree of my same-sex attraction to lesbians and thinking if I could ever be as 'good' as a lesbian when dating other women.

That's a really interesting and good thing to share! How we compare our same-sex attraction to homosexuals, and judge ourselves as unworthy or needing to measure up.