Do you feel that your Kinsey Scale rating is an accurate measure of your sexuality?

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[–]usehername[S] 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (12 children)

Can you just tell me what that means? I've never experienced anything remotely like a "bi cycle".

See, I'll often see hot women, but I'm still also attracted to men, even though the kinds I find attractive are rare. And I don't sit around craving the other when I'm in a relationship. I credit my stability to the fact that I don't "switch roles" when I'm with men or women, I'm still going to fuck them the same way even if the mechanics are different. I think that instead of some biological bi cycle, people are just changing their minds about the kind of dynamic they want in a relationship and projecting that onto potential partners.

Is that how you feel? What's the difference between men and women for you?

[–]Elvira95 3 insightful - 3 fun3 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 3 fun -  (6 children)

Interesting, sorry for getting in, since I'm not bi. But what it means fucking both the same why? Like you using a strap with both of them. An why seeing sex as wanting control or being controlled? Why not equality and mutual pleasurable. I do like more to being in control,the active, the giver, but I do like a mix of both and equal relationship (except with strap, if ever used I will only be the giver). I despise the mentality of seeing sex in fixed role when someone dominate the other, it's fucked up and abusive, and americans especially do have this culture of seeing sex in power play between people, rather than mutual equal pleasure.

[–]wendyokoopa1 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (4 children)

Yes it is. Last night I started fantasizing about an old male crush after fantasizing about women.

[–]usehername[S] 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

Well it's possible to have the same dynamic with both a man and a woman. And I'm not into masculine people, but my unsolicited advice is that a masculine woman will most likely be less toxic than a masculine man.

And you can have the dynamic as long as its equal and doesn't get too extreme.

I think it's normal to want things sexually that you know intellectually aren't in your best interests, and the only solution I can see is self-control. Easier said than done.

[–]wendyokoopa1 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

Yeah sure is. Why I started to leave dating men though was toxicity. I felt like they were pawing at me and over time I just stopped finding them attractive

[–]usehername[S] 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Was it their desperation that was a turn-off? And the entitlement?

[–]wendyokoopa1 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

The thirst yes, combined with many negative experiences combined with an on and off attraction to women.