AITA Husband doesn't want me to go on girls trip

submitted by K_teacher from self.AskSaidIt

We've been married 4.5 years, shotgun wedding, two kids aged 2 and 4. I'm a teacher and 4 of my coworkers/friends are going to Florida on our spring break. I've asked my husband if I can go with them. We're all women and 4/5 of us are married. We'll be getting a 2 bedroom place in Destin, just to enjoy ourselves and relax on the beach. According to my husband, I shouldn't want to go on a trip with him/the kids. He doesn't want me to go and thinks it's weird. He claims it's morally wrong and makes me feel guilty about having young children and still wanting to go. To me, his behavior is incredibly controlling and insecure. Am I the asshole here? Should I care more about his feelings and not go, even though I think his feelings are wrong? Aren't girls trips and boys trips things normal adults do?

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[–]hfxB0oyA 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

You created an account on Saidit just to ask this question?

[–]magnora7 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Probably part of the spam attack ongoing today, I would guess this is a bot account

[–]hfxB0oyA 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Ah. Did you read my post about allowing a few of us to spam hunt?

[–]BOOB-SMASHER 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Aren't girls trips and boys trips things normal adults do?

after you have children, you take family trips...

after you have children, your purpose is to be a parent.

[–]weavilsatemyface 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

So a business man with children isn't allowed to go on business trips unless he takes the wife and kids? 😂

your purpose is to be a parent.

And this is why parents suffer from "empty nest" syndrome when their kids grow up and leave home.

Being a parent does not mean that you are only a parent. There's nothing wrong with taking a couple of days off to relax and recharge. It's good for the parent, and good for the kids too.

[–]UncleWillard56 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I have only my marriage as an example, and me and the kids loved it the few times my ex went on vacation without us. Everyone breathed a little easier for a few days.