For me, the problem is that the various identity groups overshot the mark. Rather than wanting their perspective to be accepted, they went far beyond that. They now actively promote these behaviors. That's where the line got left behind for me. I am very sympathetic to whoever the person is in front of me, whether traditional or otherwise, if they are open to me. The problem is that the concept of promotion of their ideology has led to a competitive mindset. In order for them to win, traditionalists must lose. Too often (though certainly not in all cases; there are many many reasonable people from all groups), the goal now is to "tear down the heteronormative, patriarchal blah, blah, blah..."

How do you know the traditional structures are a better "base case"? You look at the incidence of depression, anxiety, substance abuse, self-harming behavior, etc within the different groups. It's not even close. There are clear statistical differences in each group, and the children who come from traditional backgrounds and maintain the traditional culture are healthier mentally, across the board.

The proponents of LGBTPLKLJERLJWERFLKSDJF tell us that the reason for these differences is the fault of the traditionalists attacking them and them feeling unsafe. I don't see the evidence for that claim. From the numbers I've seen, the more open the society is toward alternatives, the more strongly the traditional cultural norms for the sexes manifest.

There are a lot of extremely insecure people, and they are blaming their insecurity on the culture around them. My instinct is that their problems probably relate to particular issues within their birth families. While their family may have fit within the traditional norm and had some serious breakdown, the gender fanatics have gone too far and generalized their own personal situation, saying in effect "all mainstream cultural people are evil because my [father, mother, uncle, grandmother, or whoever] was abusive."

It's sad, because I don't think they're any happier for it. Quite the opposite.