looking for support.

rad-sage-fem · 2020-08-07T02:08:09+00:00

Hey, just wanted to give you a message of love and support. I don't really have anything to add from an advice perspective but hopefully everyone's advice gives you a place to start. You'll get through it and I hope you feel supported here.

rad-sage-fem · 2020-08-07T02:02:11+00:00

yeah I agree with this - I don't watch porn but I do like fanfic and a bit part of why it's appealing is because it's almost always two men and there are no problematic gender dynamics to deal with.

rad-sage-fem · 2020-07-30T22:16:18+00:00

Wow that's so fascinating!!! Thanks for sharing!

rad-sage-fem · 2020-07-29T18:35:14+00:00

It's a good question, I'm not sure. It's been a thing since I've been a student and then a midwife, so the last 7 years, but I don't know about before that. I remember being so annoyed (and actually quite surprised) as a student when my preceptors kept insisting on picking the pink and blue hats. Now I'm resigned and bitter hahaha

rad-sage-fem · 2020-07-29T18:32:58+00:00

So frustrating!!! I read HP fanfic but not by this author, and I have stepped away from discord and facebook (which were my fandom spaces - I was never on tumblr thank goodness) due to the current JRK hatred. One discord I was in everyone was like "she's so crazy! No one uses the word menstruator! She's just making stuff up!" Just google menstruator and you'll see that actually it is being used! It's so frustrating trying to have a conversation about this.

rad-sage-fem · 2020-07-29T18:27:58+00:00

Were you able to use the GC one at all? I created an account a few weeks ago and refused to give my phone number and they wouldn't let me complete the steps to open it. I had to jump through a bunch of hoops to final open it - I think I went through their "I got locked out of my account" process (even though technically I was locked out but had never been allowed in) but I had to follow up like 3 times before they let me access my account without a phone number. I think that might be what's happening to you. In this case I think it's unrelated to GC stuff.

rad-sage-fem · 2020-07-26T02:56:22+00:00

It's hospital dependant. (Here in Canada, anyway!) Some hospitals still have the blankets from that article, and some have pink and blue ones - it's the same blanket but reversable, one side pink, one side blue. There's a plain white blanket I've seen a lot too... Almost every hospital I've been at has hats knitted in the community and people always try to make sure the baby gets the right colour, it drives me crazy!

rad-sage-fem · 2020-07-23T16:19:33+00:00

wow. I clicked so many things on that page before giving up and googling the name of the twitter account haha.

rad-sage-fem · 2020-07-23T13:49:28+00:00

I don't really understand twitter either but I think this is it: https://twitter.com/feminist_rachel/status/1286010284625231872

rad-sage-fem · 2020-07-22T17:09:05+00:00

There was a link to one here: https://saidit.net/s/GenderCritical/comments/5i5n/gendercritical_tribute_discord_is_now_accepting/

But I've been nervous to join hahaha. Let me know if you join!

rad-sage-fem · 2020-07-21T22:10:11+00:00

which fanfic sites have denounced her? Please tell me ao3 hasn't taken a side!!!

rad-sage-fem · 2020-07-18T13:54:51+00:00

isn't that what Reddit is at this point though? And so many other spaces on the internet?

rad-sage-fem · 2020-07-10T23:27:24+00:00

Yup, I was going to recommend the copper IUD too. No hormones. I had heavy periods before and I haven't found them worse with it, personally. It can be tricky to find someone to insert them for women who haven't hard children, though, depending on where you're located.

Hormonal IUDs are great too, if you want to go for hormones but at a smaller dose. And stay away from the shot, which tends to be pushed on teens a lot (especially teens of colour if that applies to your daughter, OP). It's good for 3 months but there's no way to guarantee that the hormones are out of your system after 3 months, and no way to reverse it if she were to have side effects.

Finally, if your daughter wants to learn more about her cycle, you could get her Cycle Savvy by Toni Weschler (who wrote Taking Charge of your Fertility).

rad-sage-fem · 2020-07-10T01:51:49+00:00

Oh my god that is my favourite thing ever!

rad-sage-fem · 2020-07-09T13:24:09+00:00

I'm a midwife and I've had lots of clients use it - I find (as a very general rule) if they are really invested it in and can put up with the "picture your cervix dilating... blah blah blah" to regularly do it (you're supposed to do the visualizations throughout pregnancy to prepare), it can really make a difference. Those women often manage pain a lot more internally (sort of turn into themselves) and without outside support, I have found.

rad-sage-fem · 2020-07-09T13:20:46+00:00

It's possible that I don't understand how twitter works, but is there an article about this I could read? I only see the twitter post. Thanks!

rad-sage-fem · 2020-07-08T19:32:52+00:00

Did anyone share this one yet? https://twitter.com/jk_rowling/status/1280525371503501317 THE BEST

rad-sage-fem · 2020-07-05T14:58:25+00:00

Did you see this? https://twitter.com/EmersonSpartz/status/1279780591244914689 Imagine blocking the founder of your website because he dared to express support for the author of the books your entire website is based on!

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