position yourself to have "normal" social interactions with females along the way, as you learn more, and have real interactions.

I think this is genuinely difficult for non-player men (normies and incels). When you think about it, what is the problem? Women are interested. Yes, in you. Although they are spoiled beyond belief, their range of types of men they may be interested at any given time in is a good deal broader than many incels believe. You do not have to be buff, or over 6'6" or whatever. That is only true for the most basic of bitches.

So, what to do? "Just be confident, bro", right? Just approach women with the knowledge that they want to be approached and you may well be just what she didn't know she needed today. Right, that is what you should do. But it's easier said than done. Why? Because many incels are in reality mental-cels. Their problem is not that they are not sufficiently buff. Their problem is that they have a mental/emotional blockage. They are not naturals, and in our sick society, they simply did not have enough role models, and enough direct social exposure to girls/women growing up. So they plain don't fucking know what to say and do. And nobody could ever be bothered to tell them. Why? because they are in various ways subtly or not-so-subtly "marked" and isolated from an early age. Our society, generally speaking, is terribly superficial and unforgiving of even slight awkwardness, even when a guy has a ton of good qualities going for him. The gals don't have the patience (and also in reality lack genuine self-esteem needed) to get past a little awkwardness and get to know what may be a great guy for them in the longer-term. They were never taught to think about the long term (i.e. normal courtship and marriage, as practiced in all societies ever that were worth a crap). From a very early age, girls absorb the message that they are above all that give-and-take stuff. They are princesses, they deserve the very best served up on a palladium platter that descends hovering from the sky carrying the hunkiest hunk they can imagine -- right now!

To summarize, I think the problem is, (a) on the personal/micro level of incels: mental blockage in connection with heightened self-consciousness and social inhibition/awkwardness, which is at least partly caused by (b) on the societal/macro level: atomized, superficial, gynocentric, man-hating society that spoils and facilitates the worst tendencies of women, while generally demanding high standards of men, resulting in poor self-image for those who do not make the cut (derived from a roughly accurate, but sometimes too-harsh, assessment of one's status/sexual market value). Besides, many young men today do not have enough friends and comrades from whom they can receive reassurance, tips, learn overall social competence (not just with women), etc. So basically the incel phenomenon results from a negative feedback loop fed by a decaying social fabric.