Read up on Stoicism

 
According to Wikipedia:
"Stoicism.. is a philosophy of personal virtue ethics"
"The Stoics identified the path to *eudaimonia" (happiness, lit. 'good spiritedness') with a life spent practicing virtue and living in accordance with nature"
"To live a good life, one had to understand the rules of the natural order since they believed everything was rooted in nature.
 
If so, perhaps you may like my update especially my nutshell summary
 

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You can only control what you can control. You need to make choices around events that happen in your life - wise choices.

 
Direct Change is about everyone making change that he/she/they can control - in their own lifes.
Everyone gets to decide the company they keep - "company' includes paradigms, values, behavioral habits
Everyone gets to decide whether they want to

• continue with the usurping, Corporate, Hierarchical, Pyramidian🔺Paradigm
  -- it serves only those at the top whilst subjugating those at the bottom, or

• discard it for an usurpation-free paradigm which in my opinion would be represented by the shape of the natural universe
  -- something perhaps the Stoics would be fully onboard with