When I was 17 my gf was 36. I don't think she was a pedo, just immature. It wasn't that uncommon back 20 years ago to lose your virginity at 14-16 (I was a late bloomer lol) to an 18+ yr old, still legal most places too if the age difference is within 2 years. It was frowned upon but it wasn't lumped in with pedos back then.

You realise the psychological definition of paedophile is people who are exclusively attracted to kids, right?

That I think is a far better definition than just going by ages, due to relative age differences/maturity levels.