Don't mind most of the feminists I've met irl but you've got to do a better job of weeding out the crazies. A lot of the current problems with trans identification and the recent explosion in FTM identification I think is a direct consequence of certain radical feminist positions that come less from the "I want equal voting and property rights" line of legit feminism and more from the pathologically obsessed types that always see oppression in their tea leaves. It is typical of activists that they hate themselves and the world and are compensating for their own lack of self acceptance, and it wasn't untrue of radical feminism either, as many seem to really hate the fact that they are women and hate men as well, so they got around in the very socially antagonist method of demanding acceptance into various male only spaces through legislation, even going so far as to try to use legislation to pretend that the physical and social differences between men and women could be ignored, and naturally once that is done you can't even say what a woman is.

Radical feminism essentially went around and essentialized "women" as some sort of costume that one wears. This essentially killed the entire movement. As you've got men pretending to be stupid bimbos to get their rocks off, we also can't really listen to women's complaints about working conditions or the like either, like you want to complain about patriarchy? Yet you have chosen to be a woman? Why? Why not choose to be a man instead instead of choosing to be a woman?

It is a totally ludicrous notion, but it's the consequence of separating sex from this new fictional concept of gender. Since it invariably comes around back to very stereotypical views of what gender is. Progressive feminism ultimately comes around to answering the what is a woman question with "an inferior human" as once we admit that it's a choice one must question why someone would ever choose to be a woman. And the only answer we can imagine is "they must be an idiot to do that".