Are people claiming their suffering is a good thing? Is anyone claiming humans resourceful nature and use of tools and technology is a bad thing in it's own right?

It's not about moral stances so much as its just you can't control the laws of nature. Sure humans can fly now, with incredibly complex and expensive flying machines, but still doesn't mean gravity won't win out if the engines fail. You can hate the fact you're constantly accelerating towards the center of the earth at 9.8 meters per second squared, but there's literally nothing you can do yourself to change that fact of life, you have to live with it. You don't have to like the dating game or how women work, but you can't change it, so if you want some you've got to work with the rules you are given.

Secret fact of life, if people really hate you they will just completely ignore you. No bullying, no harassment, nothing. Not saying the bullying and harassment are good, but it does mean the person sees some benefit in interacting with you, and a lot of the milder stuff is a form of play intended to gently change your behavior towards something that will be more socially successful.

Course everything has to be internal. There's plenty of single and unhappy men and women out there who would be happy together, but they've got to first actually meet each other, and they have to actively want a relationship and see themselves as bringing some value to it. Men have it harder than women in some regard because women tend to be more picky with their sexual partners than men, largely because risks for women far outweigh the risks for men.

But if you want to improve your life and stop being an incel, focus on making a life for yourself where you are happy without a relationship, and when you are happy there, then you can start looking for someone to share it with you, and you will find someone, eventually, don't expect it to be easy or happen quickly, but it will happen if you look.