Do all the hosting companies have these kind of AUP's ? Is it the standard stuff like no violence, racism, etc ?

Yes. Because if they don't they're legally liable. Say someone starts a violent militia on their servers, the government will shut down their server company. So they're all afraid of things like this, so they all have AUPs that are at least as tight as federal law, but most are tighter in practice so the companies can cover their butt.

Even hosting a physical server comes with lots of hurdles, like the rules of the ISP, and the federal government.