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[–]no_u 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I've seen that ISPs in some countries, like the US, Norway, &c do not block some of the P2P websites and trackers, whereas VPN is necessary for P2P in many other countries. Some VPN users also fail to appropriately set up VPN, so that their own IPs can be seen behind the VPN IP. Perhaps the majority use VPN properly, and some use seed boxes, but who knows.

[–]adolp-hhitler 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Will you have a canary page to show you haven’t gotten compromised by governments?

[–]no_u 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

No need.

Big Corp already knows more about my activities than I will ever know. The Government could do its job and regulate Big Corp, but, yeah, dream on.....

[–]butterbucket 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I want to preface this by saying that I’ve been 100% financially independent from my parents since the day I graduated college. I know they don’t owe me a dime and I’m grateful for everything they’ve given me in life.

I have a sister who is about a decade older than me, and my parents promised each of us a set amount of money towards our weddings. My sister used this money to have a big, beautiful wedding and I’m happy my parents were able to help make her special day like something out of a fairytale. Now it’s my turn to get married, but my parents have admitted to me that they gave away the money they had saved for my wedding to my sister.

My sister, a mother of one, had a series of health problems and had to freeze her eggs if she ever wanted to have another child. She didn’t have the money and only had a few weeks before her hysterectomy so she asked my parents for the $13,000, which they obviously gave her. My sister was absolutely devastated by her health issues and scared, and because they’re great people, my parents were willing to do anything to make her feel better.

I know I sound like a selfish, vapid bitch for prioritizing my wedding over her fertility, but she was 36 when she got the diagnosis. There was no telling how long it would take for her health to recover, and it would be years before they could even afford supporting another infant, let alone the tens of thousands a surrogate would cost. I knew she would never have the means to use those eggs before she was 40, and she has made it very clear that she wouldn’t want to have an infant at that age. In my opinion, she acted in panic and wanted a safety net that she knew she would never use. I don’t blame her for being scared. I would have been terrified to.

But I’m still upset that now I won’t be able to have much of a wedding because I had been counting on the funds my parents had promised. I’m not so much upset that they gave it to her, but I am upset that they gave it to her knowing nothing would ever come of it. That they traded my wedding day for her brief peace of mind. My sister has confirmed already that she and her husband will not be having another child.

When my parents told me there was no money, they were obviously stricken and apologetic. I couldn’t hide my disappointment. I really tried to reassure them that I understood, but they could tell I was hurt. My sister called later and told me that it sucks I can’t have a ‘fancy wedding’ (like hers) but basically I need to grow up. Which seemed hypocritical, since she made such a big deal out of her wedding needing to be extravagant. She said she’s sorry, but at the time her future children were more important than one day in my life not being as nice as I’d hoped.

I know this isn’t the end of the world. This is dumb and petty in the grand scheme of things and I feel ridiculously shallow for being so upset over losing my dream wedding. I’m still getting married. My wedding won’t compare to my sister’s, but I’m still marrying the love of my life and it will still be an awesome day.

Thanks for sticking with me through the story. I know plenty of you are rolling your eyes over the dramatic bullshit that comes with weddings. So, am I overreacting? AITA?