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[–]Golly 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

This is something I've wondered about too. Do homosexual trans men even want to date lesbians? I'm guessing no? But if they chase after straight women the same way transbians chase after lesbians I haven't heard anything about it. So idk

[–]Shinyowl 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I had a trans man message me on a dating site a couple of years ago. I was completely perplexed.

[–]jackthelassforgot 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

My tinder says "lesbian" and there's nothing on there to indicate I'd date a transman (though I assume facebook mines that data from my other accounts and keeps promoting me to transmen), but I still got several superlikes/secret admirer cards from trans men, so some seem to be practical about hitting on women that could legitimately be attracted to their genitals.

The ones I've seen trying to hit on specifically straight girls seem to be the ones getting all their expectations from the queer theory corners of the internet and lack any real-life dating experience post-transition: the newly transitioned or newly single post-transition. I haven't seen any be pushy like transbians, but I have seen a similar inability to adjust dating strategy for a new demo, where transmen have trouble taking initiative the way straight men are expected to, or expect straight women to act like lesbians and put equal effort into wooing them.