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[–]oofreesouloo 24 insightful - 1 fun24 insightful - 0 fun25 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

I haven't been here for a while, decided to lurk today and liked this post lmao. So, my answer:

It depends, but honestly I've grown to be very cautious of bi women. I've come to realise (the hard way) that lesbians and bi women, despite sharing same sex attraction, have total different life experiences and struggles. They just don't get what we have to go through, honestly (as I won't get their struggles). My point is that we see the world in a considerable different way... Having said this, it's not that I promptly exclude bi women from my dating pool, but it's a fact that I'll be very picky in pursuing or not a bi woman. First off, she NEEDS to be out to mostly everyone, including her family. And she needs to be a very confident woman, meaning she takes pride in being bi and knows what she wants. Like, if you're bi, just own it. I find that it's rare to find this kind of confident bi women. Usually what I see is bi women hiding behind straight relationships and having same sex affairs once in a while. Huge turn off, and it's not because of the bisexuality.

[–]RedditHatesLesbians[S] 22 insightful - 1 fun22 insightful - 0 fun23 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I feel this 100%. Last year I was completely in love with one of my bi friends, asked her out and she actually said yes. I was ecstatic. Because of lockdown we didn't see each other all that much but we texted constantly and face timed, we'd go to sleep together while on call to one another. Anyway, after a while when lockdown stopped for a few months over here we visited each other, spent lots of time together but she didn't want to go past holding hands, not even kissing. I respected her boundaries and it was her first relationship ever, and we're only young, I was 17 then and she was 18 but after a few months more of refusing to act like a couple and just treating me like her best gal pal I gave up. Now she's dating some dude, posting pictures of them kissing online and raving to everyone about him while she tried to keep our relationship on the down low. It really hurts, not doing that again

[–]LesChameleon 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Damn, this is spot on! Same here, and it really took me a lot to figure it out (also the had way) 😂

[–]reluctant_commenter 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I haven't been here for a while, decided to lurk today and liked this post lmao.

Same haha.

edit: And I agree with you, I have a similar mentality towards bi women.

[–]yousaythosethings 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yes, I would have similar terms to consider a serious relationship with a bisexual woman. For something far more casual, I don't care as much. I think an out, confident bi woman who owns her sexuality and doesn't pretend it's the same as being lesbian is crucial. Then we would be on common ground. Also I think being at least as attracted to women as they are to men would be ideal. 100% into both men and women would be fine because it's not the attraction to men I would take issue with, but the lesser attraction to women. I just would feel worlds apart from someone who is way more oriented toward heterosexual partnerships. Because attraction to women does feel special and magical sometimes (I know, get a grip), I like bonding over that with my partner. My current partner is a lesbian and it's interesting how we are so different in our life experiences but then also have a lot of relatable experiences both being lesbians. For someone my age I don't know anyone who came out earlier than her, whereas I came out later than anyone I know who is my age. And yet we have a lot of common ground and there's so much to bond over.