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I agree with this, as a matter of both principle and practicality. No one owes anyone else any justification for sexual disinterest. Furthermore, I've found that assertive simplicity is also way more effective in getting men to leave you the f alone. When I was going out to bars, what worked for me was just saying, "no thank you", politely and with a smile. I think the kindness helped preclude any potential aggressiveness on their part, but it also fits my personality, so it was a good strategy for me.

I've noticed that a lot of very young women (my younger self included) feel like they have to debate these guys, when really your body and your desires should never be up for debate in the first place.