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[–]censorshipment 8 insightful - 4 fun8 insightful - 3 fun9 insightful - 4 fun -  (4 children)

Several Redditors from different states/countries wanted to meet me in 2020, but I wasn't going to risk it. I don't understand people's need to date during a pandemic... even if you use safety measures. My sister is a nurse and was very cautious until she started dating a guy and contracted covid in December... had to cancel her xmas vacation.

Anyway, I'm butch and can meet women anywhere if gay/bi women are confident enough to approach me in public. I saw lots of lesbians/bi women at a women's rally a year ago before the pandemic. I went to the rally with a friend I've known since 2015 who approached me at a BLM protest for Sandra Bland. She (a 45+ year old black femme) simply walked up to me and spoke.

Also, since I'm not white... I don't have to worry about white men larping as lesbians nor white "queer" women with boyfriends looking for threesomes. That's one of the few perks of being a black lesbian... the only thing I have to worry about is attracting depressed women, unfortunately. I think 3 of the Redditors who wanted to meet me had been recently suicidal. I don't want to deal with that shit. One woman showed me a scar of where she cut her forearm down the middle (not across her wrist). I've never been suicidal and can't relate to self-hating women.

[–]Anniesworld 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Did she show that cut to you on a first date? That seems like stalker level kind of stuff.

[–]Elvira95 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Some people seem too open about themselves. I've been suffering for mental health all my life, but I won't disclose it to someone after a first date, It would take months. You even ruin your chances of a relationship by appearing as a crazy woman who harm herself.

[–]censorshipment 3 insightful - 4 fun3 insightful - 3 fun4 insightful - 4 fun -  (1 child)

Not a date. Online.

[–]Anniesworld 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Well I hope you have better luck this year.