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[–]lulululululu 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Hahaha, nooo. I don’t want to be too specific about where my family is from, but it’s a very conservative, religious Asian country that’s actually been going backwards in terms of LGB rights in the last few years instead of going forwards. I know a few other gay men from here, but I literally don’t know a single other lesbian or even a bi woman because they’re probably all closeted. I don’t think I would be at risk of physical violence if I came out, but I would definitely be completely ostracized and lose most of my family and friends.

My siblings know about me and are completely accepting, and my mother... she was very, very homophobic when I was a kid which kept me in the closet for so long but I finally told her a few years ago and while she didn’t say anything homophobic, her face turned white and she said “Don’t tell anyone else in our family.” We’ve never talked about it since.

I have no idea what I’m going to do if I ever find someone I want to spend the rest of my life with because I would lose most of my family and my friends but I try to not think about it too much, haaa. I guess I’ll cross that bridge when I get there.

ETA: I am a dual citizen so if I ever found someone I could go back to the USA and live my life in peace, it just makes me incredibly sad to think of losing so many people I love.