The US State Dept has funded Trans Activism?

lulululululu · 2021-03-18T23:20:48+00:00

Yeah... to add another angle to this...

I’m both American and another nationality, and I’ve lived in both the US and my other country in both my childhood and my adult life. In my other country (a very conservative Asian country), I’ve met Americans on State Department grants such as Fulbright and I think other grants too (I don’t remember the names of the other grants though other than Fulbright which is the biggest one) who engage in trans activism. They almost never speak the language well, and have little understanding of the local culture. They have absolutely no idea how to frame their activism in a way that people from my country would understand... for example met one activist who kept using the untranslated English word feminism and getting upset no one understood, but feminism isn’t really a word in my language. It’s pretty funny to watch because they all see themselves as martyrs spreading trans ideology in other countries but it completely backfires and no one but the most westernized English speaking America worshipping locals takes them seriously/my friends from here are nice to their faces but talk shit about them behind their back, but it’s also infuriating to know they’re basically engaging in imperialism with State Department $$$ and don’t see it. And there are literally SO MANY of them. I think Fulbright grants last for a year and every year there are new trans activists who barely speak the local language and don’t understand the local culture showing up in my country.

lulululululu · 2020-12-06T02:27:49+00:00

Is it this post? If so, it still seems to be up on r/detrans.

https://www.reddit.com/r/detrans/comments/cgco5l/two_spirit_was_made_up_by_gay_rights_activists/

lulululululu · 2020-12-06T01:10:58+00:00

I completely understand. My womanhood is extremely important to me, so it was depressing to be in LGBT spaces (Ive never had a specifically lesbian space irl... sad) and hear 24/7 about how evil and violent “cis” women were. We’re not the ones killing trans people, it’s straight men doing that, but they never acknowledge that. People really just hated women, and use queer theory to make hating women woke.

It’s so sad for me to have to say this, but I’m now mainly only friends with straight women and I’m just a lot happier than when I was friends with self-hating “queer” women who reject womanhood. I do miss having a community though, so I’m grateful for these online spaces such as these.

lulululululu · 2020-12-05T22:21:04+00:00

IA! Speaking as a non-white lesbian, it drives me crazy that the very same people who will complain about lesbian movies being "too white" will then ignore or not support lesbian movies that star non-white women. It is not our fault that they won't watch anything other than the most popular or most discussed movies of each year, and that they don't seek out more diverse movies.

Besides, just because I'm not white, doesn't mean I can't enjoy any lesbian movie that comes out that happens to be white. The Happiest Season discourse irritated me so much for this reason. First of all, it's a harmless Christmas movie, it never pretended to be a hard hitting social drama. Second of all, people were whining about how they didn't care about a "rich white conservative lesbian" struggling to come out... as if lesbians who are not rich white conservative lesbians can't also relate to the struggle to come out?!

lulululululu · 2020-12-01T19:21:36+00:00

Honestly, this really hurts. Although I wasn’t a stan of hers, she was the first out lesbian in Hollywood that I remember knowing about and looking up to.

It’s giving me painful flashbacks to college, where I once attended a meeting that was for bisexual and lesbian women and found out I was literally the ONLY person there who wasn’t transgender or non-binary and who still used she/her pronouns, and where over the course of four years, every single one of my lesbian friends eventually came out as non-binary or transgender. :(

How can people not see what’s happening?

lulululululu · 2020-11-24T01:53:41+00:00

I was a teenager who had newly realized I was a lesbian and had just moved temporarily to my father’s very homophobic native country from my mother’s equally homophobic native country. I honestly wasn’t expecting to meet anyone gay there but I was planning on going to college in the USA so I was like oh well I guess I’ll wait.

Several months in, I met a group of other high schoolers through a program that I participated in. When we all met up at a restaurant, there was this one girl who was kind of stand-offish and I didn’t think she liked me. So we sat at different tables. As we had our separate conversations, I suddenly overheard the word “lesbian” from the other table and I started eavesdropping. Despite the fact that we lived in a super homophobic country, she was coming out to everyone and talking about her activism as a lesbian! She had a lot of amazing stories, she had been targeted by everyone from religious clerics to the police but she still lived her truth. She was so brave, I am very much a scaredy cat, so I waited until we were all leaving to pull her aside and tell her “me too.”

So we decided to “have a sleepover” to discuss “lesbian activism” but well... haha. Even though being a lesbian in a homophobic country sucks, one thing that helps is that people assume everyone is straight so we could get away with a lot like holding hands in public or having sleepovers at our parents’ houses and no one noticed. It was more of a fling than a relationship, but it was my first love. Then like two weeks later she started dating someone else and I was so heartbroken :( That being said, I ran into her new girlfriend on the street and the new girlfriend was SO hostile to me even though I tried to be nice. So I realized that we had had must have been real even though it was just for a little bit.

lulululululu · 2020-11-24T00:22:09+00:00

Hahaha, nooo. I don’t want to be too specific about where my family is from, but it’s a very conservative, religious Asian country that’s actually been going backwards in terms of LGB rights in the last few years instead of going forwards. I know a few other gay men from here, but I literally don’t know a single other lesbian or even a bi woman because they’re probably all closeted. I don’t think I would be at risk of physical violence if I came out, but I would definitely be completely ostracized and lose most of my family and friends.

My siblings know about me and are completely accepting, and my mother... she was very, very homophobic when I was a kid which kept me in the closet for so long but I finally told her a few years ago and while she didn’t say anything homophobic, her face turned white and she said “Don’t tell anyone else in our family.” We’ve never talked about it since.

I have no idea what I’m going to do if I ever find someone I want to spend the rest of my life with because I would lose most of my family and my friends but I try to not think about it too much, haaa. I guess I’ll cross that bridge when I get there.

ETA: I am a dual citizen so if I ever found someone I could go back to the USA and live my life in peace, it just makes me incredibly sad to think of losing so many people I love.

lulululululu · 2020-11-16T01:34:12+00:00

Yeah, they did that to my college roommate. Even though she was straight and she had a boyfriend, they kept insisting that she must be "queer" or "genderqueer" or whatever without realizing it yet because of her gender non-conformity, and they kept saying they were just waiting for her to come out. It really, really got to her and messed with her head. And what a surprise, after years of being told she couldn't be a woman because of her gender non-conformity, of being othered as something other than a woman, she finally came out as non-binary. Despite the fact that she was confident in her womanhood before I knew her, and before the "queer activists" got to her, she's a super militant non-binary activist now. Sigh

lulululululu · 2020-11-07T05:12:02+00:00

Speaking as a lesbian who, age-wise, is right on the border between millennials and generation Z, there is SO much social pressure to be a TRA, it's scary. Just to give an example: my first year of college, at a women's college, I attended a meeting of one of the campus LGBT organizations, and I was shocked to realize I was LITERALLY the only person in the room who did not identify as transgender or non-binary. This group, and on-campus activists in general, spent so much time talking about how "cis women" were evil, transphobic, and literally murdering transgender people with their transphobia, that pretty much every single not-straight women I knew came out as non-binary or transgender over the course of their time at college. I think it's in part, because they don't want to be seen as the oppressor and identifying as non-binary or transgender means they would be the victims, and in part, because in many places this gender ideology nonsense has pretty much taken over the entire LGB scene so if you don't believe in it you are not welcome in LGB spaces and you will likely be stalked and doxxed. More than anything else, believing in gender ideology as a young LGB person is about fitting in in this extremely strange subculture. So even if you don't really believe in it, you set aside your reservations, and you either convince yourself that you really do believe in it, or that the latest trans woman activist that's trending on Twitter knows more about it than you so you should just shut up and listen. That was my experience, anyway.

lulululululu · 2020-10-11T00:37:34+00:00

I attended a women's college too, before TIMs were allowed but there were still lots of TIFs. Every time people tried to ask this question, the TIFs would do mental gymnastics before ultimately just calling them transphobic. One eye roll worthy argument I remember TIFs making was "the creators of this college didn't mean to make a women's college, but a college for all oppressed genders!!11!! When this school was founded the oppressed gender was 'cis' women but now the oppressed genders include trans men!!111!!!"

Honestly, the narcissism of TIFs doing backflips to justify why we had to call them men at all times EXCEPT when they wanted to attend a women's college was what peaked me, as well as the narcissism of them willingly attending a women's college yet demanding everyone else change their language to suit them (for example, saying that calling our women's college a women's college was transphobic because it excluded them lmfao.)

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