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[–]yousaythosethings 11 insightful - 4 fun11 insightful - 3 fun12 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

I just want to say that this is at least partially an offshoot of the fact that gay men have generally been the face of the gay rights movement, and I think that’s at least in part because the general public saw/still sees gay men as a bigger threat than gay women. Lesbians were so invisible that when I was younger and liking girls and learned about homosexuality, I still didn’t connect that that was me because the discussion was always about gay men (see “It’s Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve” and Brokeback Mountain).

Since my closest friends are straight women, I have the good fortune of knowing straight women who are willing to listen to me and to learn about lesbian issues specifically, but if I didn’t tell them, they’d never know. And if I’d didn’t experience it myself, I don’t think that I’d know either.

But yea, someone who should know better, and comes here and sees the context of the comments she complains about is being a willfully obtuse selfish asshole. I don’t know what she expected us to say in response. “Sorry for talking about women, we’ll talk more about men” ??