u/Blueegg, where is your empathy and sense of nuance? Why are you cherry-picking and taking things out of context?

It's hilarious that you, a heterosexual women, think you have a better sense of the homophobia and lesbophobia that we experience and see in the world than we do. Straight men and straight women both often fetishize us. In this day and age, both try to misappropriate our sexual orientation and wear it as a costume. As it turns out, there are a lot of spaces for us to share those experiences about straight men such as s/LGBDropTheT, s/GenderCritical, and fucking anywhere because it's fashionable to complain about straight men everywhere. Why haven't you noticed that? But lesbians also face a great deal of homophobia/lesbophobia from many (but not all) straight and bisexual women that appears frustratingly invisible to everyone else because they cannot understand the dynamics or effects of it. This is our place to talk about that. I am a late-bloomer lesbian who has analyzed the grooming of mostly straight and some bisexual women by other straight and bisexual women in places like r/latebloomerlesbians to believe they're lesbians who then go speak on our behalf to our detriment. Likewise, you've glossed over the context, but surely you're reading the posts where even younger women who are cognizant of their attraction to men still call themselves lesbians and consider themselves to be lesbians. This is a problem uniquely experienced by no other sexual orientation than lesbians.

If you've analyzed our posts so thoroughly, don't pretend that you haven't seen any of this. Don't pretend you don't know exactly why we're upset with a specific subcategory of straight woman. That you don't understand, are unwilling to understand, lack sympathy, and are instead hostile and reactionary is exactly why you're not welcome to post here. Especially if your entire point is that we should talk about men more here. Why the fuck do you want us to talk more about men in a lesbian forum?

Your comment calling us incels is also hilariously off-base and tone-deaf in this context because you fail to point out that the type of woman being called out is the kind of woman that fetishizes us and thinks that (1) she should be able to speak on our behalf despite evidently not being homosexual, and that (2) we should be sexually available to her to solve her issues with men and her own feelings of dissatisfaction with her life.