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[–]WanderingElephant 20 insightful - 3 fun20 insightful - 2 fun21 insightful - 3 fun -  (4 children)

Girl, I know you might be thinking this is you but trust me ..this has been standard lesbian dating protocol since time began. We are a sexual minority so there are less of us about and lesbianism has always attracted tourists, voyeurs, refugees and women who think a threesome will make thier boyfriends ...something (I actually have no idea what the thought process behind this is! :-)). Expect to have to weed a lot of these out. Like a lot lot. You might end up doing more weeding then dating. Lesbian dating means doing a lot of gardening! But have faith. Focus on what you have to offer in a relationship, maintain your boundaries and eventually the statistics will turn in your favour. I've been dating since I was 18 but only met my soulmate in my late (late late) 30s! Also, if you haven't already, try investing in the more expensive dating apps / premium subscriptions. Women there tend to be older and more serious in terms of monogamy. Rightly or wrongly, they will also tend to assume you are serious too and therefore trustworthy re: your age/appearance.

[–]SailorMoon2020 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Also, if you haven't already, try investing in the more expensive dating apps / premium subscriptions. Women there tend to be older and more serious in terms of monogamy. Rightly or wrongly, they will also tend to assume you are serious too and therefore trustworthy re: your age/appearance.

This...the more money you pay, often times the better quality you'll get.

[–]DaniilDankovsky 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

What kind of dating apps would you guys suggest? I’m on tinder and her and they’re both trash...

[–]SailorMoon2020 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

None. Use social media. People are more honest about their lives on social media and it's easier to narrow down the type of women you're into thanks to tags.

Instagram, Tumblr, Facebook, Twitter. These sites allow you to go as far as narrowing it down by location as well.

In college, Tumblr was the place for lessies to meet. Now it seems Instagram is it. I have personal experience with Instagram. If you're out of the country(usa), you may have other options.

[–]DaniilDankovsky 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I’m from the Netherlands! I honestly hate Instagram. Idk but thanks for the recommendations.