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[–]florasis 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (8 children)

Is not not caring about receiving oral a sign of being submissive? Mmmm Maybe a pleaser. I know that in some cultures, men find giving oral to a woman a sign of submission. Surely I'm not submissive, and I don't think most lesbians are submissive and doormat enough not to care about not receiving it. But I don't know. It's just strange that a lesbian don't like to do the act

[–]VioletRemi 7 insightful - 4 fun7 insightful - 3 fun8 insightful - 4 fun -  (1 child)

In lesbian relationships - one that goes oral is often dominant one, not submissive one. Same as riding one is often the dominant one, not submissive. It is not heterosexual relationship, where it is other way around :D

[–]florasis 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I don't know. It depends. If someone like to receive oral, but is the one who only finger without wanting to receive it, I wouldn't call her submissive. Oral itself doesn't look like an act of dominance like riding a pussy or fingering.

[–]SailorMoon2020 4 insightful - 3 fun4 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 3 fun -  (4 children)

You know it’s okay to question things even if they’re good right?

Of course not. An act is neither submissive nor dominate, a person is. However, submissive women desire to submit, often times that includes performing certain sex acts on the dominant partner.

I have met many homosexual women who would rather give oral than recieve for various reasons. Only one woman I encountered took offense to me not wanting to perform oral on her but she was bisexual. They have entitlement issues, I believe.

[–]florasis 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Entitlement issues? Expecting a partner to give oral sex the same way as the receive it surely isn't entitlment, but the bare minimum to expect.

[–]SailorMoon2020 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Women should not have to perform any sex act they do not desire regardless if it's the 'same' or 'bare minimum'. When she says, 'I do not want to' and/or 'no' then it is final.

[–]florasis 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Nobody saying someone should be forced to do anything. But expecting to receive oral sex, as you give, isn't entitlement, it is quite natural and fair in a mutual relationship where both please each others in a equal manner. That bisexual wasn't entitled just because she desired to receive oral sex, after giving it.

[–]SailorMoon2020 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I told the bisexual, "You should want me to go down on you because I want to do it. Not because it's fair." I'd be doing it solely out of obligation which is often times no different than coercion.

She did not perform on me. We did not have sex due to us not being compatiable.

[–]Seahorse 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm not the least bit submissive, I'm dominant and I much prefer to go down on my girl.

It's about control and I have it.

This one might be thinking about too much hetero standards in sex.