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[–]FrostyNugs 12 insightful - 8 fun12 insightful - 7 fun13 insightful - 8 fun -  (3 children)

OMG are you implying that lesbian wombyn aren't LITERAL PATRIARCHY SMASHING GODDESSES??? Being a lesbian is about not wearing a bra or shaving your legs! Eating pussy to take down the patriarchy! (Until the right guy comes along, tee hee)

Okay real talk, I agree with you 100% OP. It sucks ass to be alienated from other women in general for being gay, and being alienated from other gay women for not following their very specific set of political beliefs/certain fashion trends. You just feel so fucking alone in the world and it's awful.

[–]SickOfThisShitNow 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

In terms of the radfem ones, most of the "lesbian" feminists who will disregard you for not following their beliefs and set of behaviours are actually bi - that's why they've got such a weird view of being a lesbian that they learned from books and their belief system rather than real life. There are some actual lesbians in radical feminism but they tend to be more normal and rational, understand different lesbian experiences and will engage with regular lesbians even if they have differences in views. The ones who are insistent that lesbians are "patriarchy smashing goddesses" and hate any lesbian who doesn't conform, are pretty much always bi (or occasionally straight) - That's why they are so clueless and so obsessed with lesbianism being all about men and taking down the patriarchy.

[–]FrostyNugs 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Lol yes, most of them are political "lesbians." Unfortunately, they outnumber us by a lot. And when you meet one in the wild, it can be hard to catch on that they're not actually gay. It's why I'm kinda suspicious of anyone who says they're a lesbian while constantly talking about how they hate men.

[–]peaked2020 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It’s so funny to me that women like that exist... something must be missing in their lives to have such a void? Or maybe they’re just very stupid...

Unfortunately I have met a few... they thrive in college. Normally they cool down after some time in the real world... but sadly, that normally comes with a husband on the way. They will often claim that they used to be lesbians but are now bisexual.