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[–]VioletRemi 7 insightful - 4 fun7 insightful - 3 fun8 insightful - 4 fun -  (3 children)

Not even sleeping with them is accounting here, but if she liked it or not. I was married on a man for 2.5-3 years, and I thought I was asexual. Sexologist gave a conclusion that I am frigid. I really tried hard to "fix" myself to love men (as I only had crushes into women before, and living in homophobic country with hard censore over homosexual information, I had no idea that women can be together). Sleeping with woman I liked in one bed (not even having sex, just laying close) "fixed" that "frigidness" in an instant, tho! So what I am saying that lesbian will not be even aroused from male and will not really enjoy sex with male, and it is not because "lesbian have chosen that" or it is "preferences", no, it is because of how we were born. We just can't, even if we try, even if we really will want to, - it is not how our body works.

[–]literallyjustvibing[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

yeah trust me, i know. i tried to fix myself for a long time, which led me to label myself as a "probably asexual trans boy" (yikes). but you're totally right, it's the liking that determines if you're a lesbian.

[–]VioletRemi 6 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Ha ha, I tried to "become a boy, so then I will be able to be with women" too at some point :D

[–]literallyjustvibing[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

don't we all 😂