i'm just,, really angry :/

submitted by literallyjustvibing from (self.Lesbians)

hi i'm new here but i already like it here. i don't know how many teens are on here but if you are one you'll know what i'm talking about. THERE IS NOT A SINGLE LESBIAN IN MY GSA. or gay guy for that matter. it's all """""nonbinary pansexual"""" uwu kids. i don't know a single other lesbian. this wouldn't be too bad except everyone convinced me that i was a trans boy (i'm just butch!) so i spent more than a year hating myself and my body because i felt like i had to. and then it's BiGoTrY when i try and say something about how it has affected me ://///

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[–]Hollywood 30 insightful - 1 fun30 insightful - 0 fun31 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Being genderfluid non-binary and queer is the cool thing now. It's also a great way for straight people to win woke points. It alienates regular homosexuals who don't want anything to do with meaningless labels.

[–]literallyjustvibing[S] 24 insightful - 3 fun24 insightful - 2 fun25 insightful - 3 fun -  (1 child)

yeah!! i feel very unwelcome at my schools qUeEr events, i went to one and i was the only homosexual present (and there weren't even any real/genuine transsexuals, either, just girls with short blue hair calling themselves xe/xir). i asked the speaker to please stop calling me queer and she forced a hug on me and told me to get over any issues i had with being called queer. it's damaging and cruel and homophobic, not just annoying.

[–]gencritLesbo 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Sorry that's happening to you. I'm gnc and older. Just here if you want to vent. I went to an uber liberal college and they they/them'd me throughout the whole thing

[–]WildwoodFlower 22 insightful - 1 fun22 insightful - 0 fun23 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I am not a teen, but I hear these kinds of stories about GSAs over and over again. You don't need this kind of negativity in your life. You also don't need to tether yourself to kids who either have severe mental health problems or who are so desperate for attention that they are pretending to be members of a minority group.

Since I am old, the only advice I can give you is to do what other young lesbians (and gay boys) did back in the day and find your people among those who share your interests, whether it's sports or music or whatever. Yes, there will be mostly straight kids there and the lesbians and gay boys might not be out yet. But if you have an interest that attracts a higher-than-average number of lesbians (for example, women's basketball or playing in a rock band), you should find someone you can click with. At the very least, you will be doing something fun and interesting instead of sitting around a room with a bunch of navel gazers.

[–]Vernalmuffins 18 insightful - 2 fun18 insightful - 1 fun19 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Okay I'm gonna give u some advice: run away from that group of people. Don't try to explain to them how they hurt you, just leave. Pretend they don't exist. Bc if they're like the uwus I've known, they are waaaay too batshit to be worth it. Find friends that are stable people, even if they're straight, and you'll be better off. You'll probably find some gay guys and lesbians along the way to be befriend that won't be knee deep in mental illness.

[–]literallyjustvibing[S] 12 insightful - 2 fun12 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

yeah definitely. i've already distanced myself and i feel a lot happier and more confident. crazy what finally not being around homophobes in disguise will do to your self esteem

[–]TalerTest 15 insightful - 4 fun15 insightful - 3 fun16 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

Looks like imitation is not the sincerest form of flattery after all.

That is one of the things that sucks about being a minority. We are obviously outnumbered by heterosexuals so it's not like we can do much about it when they try to force themselves into our spaces and force us out. Maybe we just have to wait for them to realize that pretending to be non-straight is sad and pathetic. I wonder if in the future when everyone is non-straight, straight will become the new cool thing.

[–]Anniesworld 14 insightful - 2 fun14 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

I'm sorry that you are growing up in a time where you feel attacked for explaining that you are a lesbian. My suggestion is that it's not going to change any time soon so maybe stay away from the GSA. These people are not worth your time if they want you to conform to their ideas of who you should be. Have you tried other places to meet up with other gays? I used to know quite a few gay women from everyday life. Try volunteering at a barn with horses (ASPCA or local charity)they are packed with lesbians, or something sporty like soccer or baseball. Or even a community center that has anything to do with wild life. You could try workshops that teach about fixing cars, woodworking, gardening,or even budgeting for college/career focused courses. I find that women who are their own people are unafraid to identify as a lesbians and that people who have their shit together generally respect others. Are you looking for a community or a romantic partner? It might be harder to find someone who is not part of the woke crowd if you live in liberal city, try going to these events in rural/ suburban environments.

[–]literallyjustvibing[S] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

i mean i'd love a gf, but it's probably not going to happen until college the way things are rn. and unfortunately i live in nyc, which is basically the PEAK liberal city, lol. i love it here but it's so fake woke it's ridiculous. but yeah after the pandemic i'm going to join irl groups to see if i can meet "normal" people who want to talk about something other than how many letters are in the acronym.

[–]Anniesworld 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Good for you girl. It's always smart to go with quality people rather than acronym focused groups. I wouldn't give up on nyc so quick there are a lot of women who are open to the idea of being with a woman there. And I'll bet you a lot of them share your views but are too afraid to voice them. I'd say keep your eye out for a girl that seems rational, with some conversation you might be able to enlighten her to the issues within the lgbtq+++++ community. Oh and remember to be careful on dating apps if you use them.

[–][deleted] 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm not a teen anymore but I know we do have a few users your age here who have vented frustrations about the exact same things. It seems to have infected many universities too.

It's really messed up how people try to push you to identify as trans. They say it doesn't happen but it does, I've been through it and we see it happen to butch/GNC girls all the time. I'm so sorry that people won't accept you for who you are. These are rough times we live in with all this neohomophobia. If you can find more like-minded people in your age group online it helps a lot. Welcome to the sub.

[–]Skipdip 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Join the discord for lesbians born after 1994!

[–]literallyjustvibing[S] 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

im 'noidontlikegirlinred'!!!! :)

[–]LesbiSilly 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I am sorry about this. I stay away from my GSA, too.

[–]Bright_painting 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

YES. YES. YES. I feel your anger! I'm from a small town, so we are not many to begin with, but it feels like EVERY. SINGLE. ONE. of them is some sort of queer/trans/NB etc. etc! For a long time, it was only me and one other girl who were lesbians. Right now, my spirits are really low, because SHE CAME OUT AS NB AND I AM OFFICALY ALL ALONE! I feel so lonely, so helpless, so isolated. :(