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[–]SeahorseLT 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

For me, it is a thing that makes me kinda happy and proud about myself but not in a way where I have to advertise it.

It's just that in my circle of friends, at school, I was under heavy pressure to "finally lose the V card" and it was really really a struggle not to just go and sleep with a guy so people would get off my back. I didn't realize I was a lesbian until I was 17, and repressed a lot, so people were starting to see me as super weird for still not having had a boyfriend and stuff. For a while, I identified as asexual but I knew it wasn't the right thing to describe myself. It just kept people off my back.

Came out to myself at 18, and only then even allowed myself to think about what "did it" for me. Women.

So going through all that pressure without having given in just because of "friends" telling me to and having been true to my gut feeling, that's something I am proud about in myself.

My ex only knew I was a goldstar because I had to kinda explain to her that at 22, I was still a virgin and had no experience whatsoever. It was not a virtue signalling thing for me. I don't even know many (or any) gold stars because of said friend group. There was a girl who is now bisexual that was always telling me, "But you haven't tried. I tried, and it's fun both ways. Come on, try! [Insert random guys name] fancies you!"