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I’m in my 30s (maybe 35 plus, I’ll leave that vague)

In my lifetime being homosexual was considered sin and socially not very accepting. Everyone always snickered at the mention of Ellen DeGeneres. I lived in California where Prop 8 was voted for before allowing gay marriage across the country. That really made me feel bad as California is pretty liberal and they weren’t even able to pass it. I will add that none of this stopped me from dating, but it just kind of made me feel like it was something that was just not going to be accepted.

I did participate in PRIDE and came out. I was kicked out of my house and was homeless for being gay. Marriage became legal and places softened. I lived more open. In a sense that I felt safer saying I had a gf at work without being afraid that I’d get fired.

Now more comfortably settled and missing lesbian spaces, I came online to see... well all of this.

It does feel like a reverse in a sense because just as you were starting to feel a little respected you’re getting crapped on by “your own”. Now LGBs (particularly the L and WLW/FEBfems) are afraid to come out as such not so much for their families but from their own support group. It’s like the places for safety have reversed or if you live with parents who are homophobic or people who are strong TRA, it’s worse because they have no support. Another thing is that before you at least had the media that would tell you things like “it gets better” but now they want you to die.