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[–]yayblueberries 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I don't enjoy the whole "in the closet/coming out" thing in the first place. I don't think it is fair that I live in a society that claims to be trying to accept homosexuality and then expects it to be this big reveal. It really should not be a big deal to straight people that I am a lesbian. If it is, there's a problem. I only "reveal" it in the same way a straight person does, such as when talking about somebody attractive or when I have a partner.

Also, you are under no moral obligation to reveal anything about yourself to normalize anything.

[–]RedditHatesLesbians[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I've always thought this too! Also the moment you come out, people mentally categorise you as that lesbian because we're pretty rare. And I don't want to just be thought of as "the lesbian" by anyone. I'm a person, not an orientation.

[–]LesbiSilly 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This is very insightful. I think though that for me, being open about it's best. Because I'm not going to bring it up out of the blue. But being able to say, "I like women" in public is huge. Especially when people are talking about dating and stuff. I do the, "I'm out, but not everyone needs to know. Because I just want to be normal and if it comes up, I'm not going to hide it."

And OP, I would just trust your instincts. It's OKAY to not be out. It is ALWAYS okay. I urge you to do what you feel safe doing.

[–]sootsprite 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I totally agree with your first paragraph. If people claim to be a-ok with gays then they shouldn't make it a huge deal.