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[–][deleted] 19 insightful - 1 fun19 insightful - 0 fun20 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Polyamory is a hard pass for me. Just causally dating more then one person at a time was exhausting, and that was in my 20’s. I couldn’t imagine doing it full time, or choosing it as lifestyle. Most of the time when I’ve met someone involved in it they seemed insecure about the situation on one level or another. Looking at the relationships from the outside it always seemed to consist of one dominant person and a few doormats, just my opinion.

Threesomes always seemed to be drunken adventures. Never with anyone I actually cared for, established couples, or anyone that I had more then just a physical attraction to. The thought of seeing someone I care for with someone else isn’t something I’ve ever been down for.

[–]TarshishJupiter 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

The thought of seeing someone I care for with someone else isn’t something I’ve ever been down for.

Same. Poly advocates sometimes say that jealousy in that case is bad, but I believe there are some cases where jealousy is natural or even warranted. I want my woman to myself, thank you very much, and I'm willing to do the same for her.

[–][deleted] 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I would say my problem would be more of sharing the intimate side of the relationship. There’s a reason I committed myself to someone, if I wanted someone else I wouldn’t have done it.

[–][deleted] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Jealously is totally natural. Animals are jealous, I’ve seen pets get jealous. It’s important to protect the intimacy of your connection to your partner. You build it together. Random people nosing in on that have the potential to destroy it. I don’t get poly-logic

[–][deleted] 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

My mare that I’ve had for 20 years tries to kill my wife at least once a week because she’s way to invested in protecting her position with me. According to her my actual wife is the other woman.

All jokes aside I don’t feel threatened by someone flirting with or hitting on my wife. She’s loyal, honest to a fault, she’s not going anywhere and for some reason she loves me. So people can look all they want, hell they can even try and take a shot, but god help them if they try to touch her.