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[–]MyLongestJourney 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

It’s no one’s business, other then your own, on why you are choosing not to have sex with someone.

Sure.But you should not lead people on.If you have sexual trauma and hate getting touched,do not lead people on.Other people's feelings and time matter too.

[–][deleted] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

OP is either 16 or 17 years old. At that age you are either ready or not and unfortunately there’s only one way to figure that out. I’m not going to hold a teen who’s more the likely still in high school to the same standards as someone who has actual life experience and coping skills that you develop as you get age and experience behind you. She’s being smart and finding out what her boundaries are, seeking help from a therapist for what happened to her, questing if she is ready to take things up a notch, and trying to figure out if it’s ok to say no when you’re not sure or feel uncomfortable. I will firmly stand by my statement that all she needs to say is no or I’m not ready yet being good enough for now.

[–]MyLongestJourney 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

OP is either 16 or 17 years old. At that age you are either ready or not and unfortunately there’s only one way to figure that out. I’m not going to hold a teen who’s more the likely still in high school to the same standards as someone who has actual life experience and coping skills that you develop as you get age and experience behind you. She’s being smart and finding out what her boundaries are, seeking help from a therapist for what happened to her, questing if she is ready to take things up a notch, and trying to figure out if it’s ok to say no when you’re not sure or feel uncomfortable. I will firmly stand by my statement that all she needs to say is no or I’m not ready yet being good enough for now.

Kudos to her for her effort but I stand by my statement.After all,I was not specifically referring to her but to all people in similar circumstances in general.

[–][deleted] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

If it’s not directly related to the kid who asked for help why argue a point that doesn’t matter in this direct circumstance?

[–]MyLongestJourney 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Because it is important to remember the human.All humans.

[–][deleted] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Remember that the next time you tell someone no

[–]MyLongestJourney 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I always do. I am not out to hurt people. But there are (at least...) two people in each relationship and both should be considered.