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[–]reluctant_commenter[S] 1 insightful - 3 fun1 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 3 fun -  (2 children)

There's no such thing as bisexual sex (no, not even mixed-sex threesomes

Completely agree.

When bisexual people call themselves gay and then pursue heterosexual relationships, they make people think homosexuality is fake or changeable.

I agree.

If a gay person calls their self bisexual and only pursues homosexual relationships, it doesn't counteract bisexuality.

Correct, but what I am trying to say is-- if a bisexual person "changes" to calling themselves homosexual (really they did not change, they were homosexual all along), it makes people think that "bisexual" is just a holding-place for those sorting themselves out, not a real sexual orientation. I am not bisexual so I can't really speak to how much of an issue it is, but I know that back when I thought I was bisexual and called myself such, I heard people say that stuff.

I agree, but I think most of the straight/bi people who use the term 'gay' are using it for the reason u/Astrid2448 mentioned. Not because they are confused about their sexuality or anything.

I guess this sort of breaks down to our anecdotal experiences with people. I will admit my bias-- I err on the side of giving people the benefit of the doubt, which is perhaps too optimistic in this situation, lol. It is possible that you are right and I am being too generous. But I know that it was the case for me, and I have read about it being the case for other people.

I mean, It's pretty hard to not realize that you are straight or attracted to the opposite sex in this heterosexual world.

I disagree. I was brainwashed by misogynistic and religious nutcases, though, so I suppose that is also my bias. But I think it is also more common than we think because there is so much lesbophobia on Tumblr and other places, "you have to like dick", etc.

Probably because so many people who are not homosexual use it. It's like a vicious cycle

Yes, but also thanks to media. E.g. "Gay pride" referring to all LGBT, that is misleading.

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    [–]reluctant_commenter[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    Hey-- I am going to have to eat my words and admit you are right on people wayyyy over-abusing the term "gay".

    I just did a data analysis on the AL survey and although AL is not representative of all LGB out there (thank god).. the results are telling. There are a lot of "bisexual lesbians" on that sub. I think I can actually address your question @ how many bisexuals are calling themselves "gay". https://saidit.net/s/Lesbians/comments/64mp/i_did_some_data_analysis_on_the_al_demographics/

    I'm really confused. Are you saying that it's hard for straight people to realize they are straight in this world? I think you misread, but I could have phrased that sentence better.

    Ah, I did misread, my bad. Sorry, I have had a ton of people on this sub tell me that "It's really hard to not realize you are gay", which is what I thought you said.