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[–]reluctant_commenter 14 insightful - 5 fun14 insightful - 4 fun15 insightful - 5 fun -  (2 children)

I am not sure how representative I am of lurkers, to be honest. But I can share my perspective.

I do not like social media. I did not even intend to join Reddit, a friend coaxed me on by showing me all the beautiful nature pictures on r/EarthPorn, lol. Eventually I made an account just to vote, and not comment, because I felt like nothing I had to say could possibly be as important, interesting or worthwhile as the comments I was reading. I also kinda just felt (and still feel somewhat) anxious about the idea of participating, because then it's like I have to keep doing it. Even though logically I know I don't.

I never commented in TL because:

  • I found Tumblr first, and was brainwashed with anti-TERF rhetoric. I did not even subscribe because I felt guilty lol, but I started reading TL because it was the only place that had actual lesbians and that intrigued me. It also felt relatable in ways that AL never did (e.g. I fucking HATE all the posts about "tiddies XD" on Tumblr and the AL-adjavent subs).

  • Same reasons as why I never commented on any subreddit.

  • I felt like I would be targeted by other reddit users

  • I knew less about the whole trans debate and still wasn't quite sure what a "TERF" even was. Was worried I wasn't "TERF-y" enough for TL users, or that I would be a bigot for agreeing with them.

I started reading more about gender theory and slowly came to realize that it was an ideology, not founded in empirical evidence or even logically consistent claims. The breaking point for me was admitting to myself that I thought dicks were disgusting, and I just didn't want to date a man. I had known for a while that I didn't want to date men, but I didn't explicitly acknowledge it to myself. I have a ton of hangups with the word "lesbian", and coming to terms with that has been a whole thing. I ended up reading TL regularly because the whole claim "you HAVE to like transwomen dick if you're a lesbian" really scared me, and TL fought that.

Then, a couple weeks later, TL got banned. I was like WTF, I wasn't done reading this sub, so I followed you guys to saidit and decided to make "just one" introductory post, because I thought it would be good for me to try to interact with other lesbians, because I know like none in real life.

I did NOT expect to like commenting this much. Wtf. It's like I can't stop. Can someone turn this thing off?!? I think this is my cue to go take a break, lol.

[–]CJLez 16 insightful - 5 fun16 insightful - 4 fun17 insightful - 5 fun -  (1 child)

I fucking HATE all the posts about "tiddies XD" on Tumblr and the AL-adjavent subs

But I is a smol girl. Such useless lesbian. Is me. I useless.

It got old. Quickly.

[–]Dravidian 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

NEar every time I've seen that kind of meme it was by a trans woman, so, take this as you will...