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[–]Innisfree 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (9 children)

I've retreated from that idea of love. Mostly because my experiences so far have been with women who initially overwhelmed me with their feelings and as soon as I started truly falling for them, they moved on.

As a result I think this idea that women quickly fall out of love, the fact that "newness" is important to them to be in love (plus that lesbian bed death cliche) took root in my brain (which I wish it didn't).

So yeah, I've accepted the fact that "I'm boring" and at this point don't even have the energy to engage in a relationship.

But ppl take heart, there's a reason why in lesbian culture women over 40 are considered hot and are sought after. There's no way that someone over 40 can be considered boring, as long as they have their lives figured out and their feet firmly planted on the ground.

Edit: spelling

[–]florasis 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (8 children)

Really? I've got a thing for older women. And would be awesome to date some confident and experienced 50 years old cougar, and I'm 25. But come on, plenty of old people are boring. Also, depends on your idea of boring, which is very personal, and depends on what you seek in relationships.

[–]Innisfree 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

Oh yeah older women are cool. I think it's because past a certain age people feel comfortable with themselves, consequently there's no nonsense in the relationship.

As to the boring thing yeah I agree with you. It's the vibe, or 'accussation" :) I've been getting from my friends circle who are all super progressive and QT. But I'll see what they think in 5-10 years :)

[–]florasis 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

I'm very introverted and I could be considered boring by the average extroverted person, cause between going to a party and play videogames, i tend to choose the second option. I don't give a fuck though. I cannot pretend to being something I'm not, or behave like everyone else, just to appease to people. In me you can find someone who likes deep conversation over small talks and will always put your wellbeing at the center, if she loves you. If someone is interested in more extroverted type, I won't be the one.

[–]Innisfree 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

Yep, that's the spirit I'm cultivating. I politely smile at their antics while I retreat to my cave. :)

[–]florasis 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Aw, I really want a woman with this character to share my cave with :D

[–]Innisfree 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

We should look up older lesbian speleologists. They like caves :D

On a serious note, you'll find her, just let the covid be over.

[–]florasis 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm on a phase of life, where actually don't want relations. Because life is going to change a lot for me in the next year. I will likely change country, and I have no idea where I'll live, so I think I don't want anything serious,until I'm with a stable condition. But you will find your boring soulmate too :)

[–]FluffyPotato 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I posted about this, although I am not 50 :) I am younger but still considered cougar. I am not hitting on you, but you would never be bored around me. My hobbies are numerous, like my education. And silliness goes a long way! If someone wouldn't just totally mess with me in a good way on a dating app, that would just be awesome if I had some funny, off the wall banter going on.I'll keep dreaming.

[–]florasis 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I really need to try an older woman lol