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Upon further thought, I guess feeling like everything is drag is not uncomfortable now, but that’s because I actually believe it’s just drag. What makes me more uncomfortable are people who feel their clothing etc is a representation of some kind of gender essence due to their sex. Clothes are just things we like for many reasons, and have more to do with our personal life experiences than any essential being.

I’ve done a lot of meditation and it has led me to see many things as just ego layers. I wear mostly black. It’s not because I am some “essential goth” or punk or anything, it’s just easier to dress up or down with bits of colour, and it doesn’t overstimulate my eyes. I have some sentimental ties to it from my teens, and we wear black at work a lot on purpose. Also, other people make associations about our character and interests through clothing and I prefer to be noticed less for that. When you wear colour you have to make sure things coordinate and I don’t want to buy things to look good with everything. That’s too much time and money. Lol.

I know what you mean about dresses. I don’t wear dresses much because i don’t feel like sitting like a “lady,” it’s uncomfortable for me, and I don’t like being objectified so I don’t wear boob revealing shirts etc. It’s not masculine to not wear specifically feminine clothing, as much as it is an avoidance of sheer discomfort and objectification, and wardrobe malfunctions. I move around a lot and don’t need my tits out or ass on display.

One thing I do wear is lingerie. Most women are surprised to see what I have on under these clothes. Lol. If I have anything super “femme” about me, it’s bras and underwear FOR SURE. I like how they feel though, when they fit just right. Like being perfectly cradled. Many brands are specifically designed to fit different female bodies, and are very comfortable, so it’s almost like these things can be the most pro-woman garments out there. No one has to see it, only yourself and your partners. That’s what I like the most.