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[–][deleted] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I can casually chat with men very easily (gay or straight) because I don’t have sexual interest in men. Same with straight women. It’s a boundary I don’t mentally or emotionally cross.

I don’t have any males in my close personal circle.

I am totally tongue-tied with butch lesbians because I have such a strong attraction to them. Sexual attraction adds another entire dimension to the interaction for me.

[–]oofreesouloo[S] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Thanks for your answer! :D

Same with straight women. It’s a boundary I don’t mentally or emotionally cross.

Definitely understand what you're saying and I do the same. If they're straight, I'll 'block' anything romantically wise I could eventually feel.

Sexual attraction adds another entire dimension to the interaction for me.

Definitely. You touch in a very important point. What happens with me is that if I assume a woman is straight, I'll 'block' (as I've mentioned before) and I won't have any problem being 'comfortable' around them. However, it has happened a few times when I actually find out that woman is bi (it never happened being a lesbian) and if I feel attraction, suddenly my mind stops 'blocking' and I'm like "she's kinda hot" and I start getting much more nervous and tongue-tied ugh 😅

[–]carrotcake 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

That mind blocking state being interrupted when you realize she's bi is SO TRUE