What was your worst date experience?

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[–]writerlylesbian 16 insightful - 12 fun16 insightful - 11 fun17 insightful - 12 fun -  (26 children)

Went on a date with a lesbian who seemed normal. She was quite attractive, the date went well, we agreed on a second date. Things were looking quite promising!

Then the incessant texting started. Texts at 5 in the morning. Texts sent five minutes after wanting to know why I hadn't replied to the first 5-in-the-morning text. Texts saying how in love with me she was. Texts saying she would 'figure out all my secrets' which I think was meant to be cute or sexy or something, but was oh-so-creepy. Then my favourite, "God told me we were meant to be together." There were so many red flags if I'd been a bull I wouldn't have known what to do with myself.

So I cancelled the 2nd date, said you have serious boundary issues you need to work on, good luck & goodbye. Blocked her.

Then she started calling me from a No Caller ID number so I couldn't block her, but one time she screwed up and the number actually showed up on my phone so I blocked that too, and that was an end to the whole sorry business.

I feel kinda special though. How many lesbians can say that GOD took a personal interest in their dating life.

[–]VioletRemi 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Oh god, I hate stalkers and invasive people in general. And if it is one I am in relationship, that will be complete hell!

[–]writerlylesbian 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Yes, totally. Being in a relationship shouldn't mean having no privacy or no personal space. And telling someone you basically want to violate their privacy and thinking that's sexy is just so not on.

[–]VioletRemi 6 insightful - 3 fun6 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 3 fun -  (2 children)

Yeah, I was dating few girls like that, they were trying to be everywhere in my life. I bet they would spend even time with me when I am pooping, if they could. It was so annoying, that relationships were ending really fast :D

However, worst stalker experience with me was from the man, who knew that I am dating and living with another woman, and yet he was stalking me and trying to make me answer back. I was not even answering him, somehow he found a city where I am living, and It was like 3-4k kilometers and other country from where he is, and he came there as a "surprise", thought it is super romantic as he saw that in one movie (lol?), and then when I refused to meet, he was so angry and was bashing "I did everything to you, so much sacrificed and you don't even care, all women are just bitches". This situation was both comedic and I have big laughs, and scary (and I still have soft PTSD/Panic Attacks when someone starts stalking me). And most sad part in all this, is that he always thought that I am just hiding relationship with other man, and was like "just say that you with other man, I will talk with him and will never stalk you again" - that is pissing me off to this day, because what he implied is that "lesbian relationship is not real relationship". I was so mad, and still mad.

[–]writerlylesbian 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

That's really scary, I'm glad he didn't end up hurting you or your partner, but wow...That's just awful.

[–]VioletRemi 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Well, he did not found where we were living, just our city. And I still wondering how, because I was super paranoid back then and was giving zero info anywhere. Now I am much more open with giving info into internet, it is still as dangerous, but I am refusing to live in fear.

[–]carrotcake 6 insightful - 4 fun6 insightful - 3 fun7 insightful - 4 fun -  (5 children)

I've kinda been there too. The only different thing is that it wasn't god, but that our souls where connected spiritually since our early lives. The sex was great though so i don't count as a completely bad date lol

[–]writerlylesbian 9 insightful - 3 fun9 insightful - 2 fun10 insightful - 3 fun -  (4 children)

Glad I'm not the only one to be hit with the "we are destined by higher powers" type line. I mean, sex can be intense, I guess at least it makes a little more sense to get that over-invested because of sex. This was the most vanilla date anyone could possibly go on; I'm still a little amazed at the speed of the trajectory from had coffee and chatted for a few hours to God destined us to be soulmates.

[–]BraveAndStunningTERF 4 insightful - 3 fun4 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 3 fun -  (2 children)

Well you know... God works in mYsTeRiOuS wAyS... /s

[–]writerlylesbian 4 insightful - 3 fun4 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 3 fun -  (1 child)

Incoherent ways, perhaps, in this particular instance.

[–]VioletRemi 7 insightful - 3 fun7 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

Did he ever asked? He even impregnated already married woman without consent!

[–]carrotcake 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I'm always amazed of how crazy people can be

[–][deleted] 6 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 2 fun -  (4 children)

Did you sleep with her on that first date? No woman gets that hung up without a thorough seeing-to.

[–]writerlylesbian 11 insightful - 3 fun11 insightful - 2 fun12 insightful - 3 fun -  (3 children)

No, I didn't sleep with her. I'm pretty sure I could have been any random lesbian and she would have reacted the same. She was just desperate to be with someone, it really didn't matter who. But I'm glad I didn't sleep with her, as then I can only imagine how much worse everything would have played out!

[–][deleted] 12 insightful - 4 fun12 insightful - 3 fun13 insightful - 4 fun -  (2 children)

She wanted to lesbian with someone. God saw her lesbianing with you. How dare you suggest God was wrong.

[–]writerlylesbian 7 insightful - 3 fun7 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

Waiting to be struck down for my infidel ways any day now, lol.

[–]VioletRemi 6 insightful - 3 fun6 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

Isn't god is strongly against lesbians?

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    [–]writerlylesbian 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    Yeah, I think it was both. Very desperate for love and acceptance but no idea how to go about getting it. I wonder why she hadn't been successful to that point???????????????????

    [–]plumedoomer 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

    I feel bad for her. She just wanted love! You’re probably the first cute lesbian she ever met.

    Stories like these are just tragedies.

    But, I also really liked your bull comment, lol.

    [–]writerlylesbian 7 insightful - 3 fun7 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 3 fun -  (2 children)

    Based on some of the things that unfurled during the course of Great Texting, it seemed like she mostly went after straight women. Which...Yeah, destined to end in failure.

    I mean, she really was someone who clearly had a lot of issues she had not successfully worked through, and that's very sad. But we were also both in our thirties, and like, by that age you should have gotten at least the basics of your shit figured out. Or have enough self-awareness to understand you have some shit to work through, and be taking steps to do so.

    Not deluding yourself into thinking that God has preordained a lesbian for you.

    [–]VioletRemi 10 insightful - 3 fun10 insightful - 2 fun11 insightful - 3 fun -  (1 child)

    Some people are like that even in their 70s.

    [–]writerlylesbian 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    Yes, this is true. Some people just never seem to gain any insight into themselves.

    [–]Philliy 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

    "How many lesbians can say that GOD took a personal interest in their dating life."

    I'm honestly still waiting for that to happen.

    [–]writerlylesbian 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    Lol, yeah, I think we all feel that way sometimes, it's hard.

    [–]Dykexmachina 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

    That was after the first date? Wow.

    I've had the incessant texters, the harrassers, the No Caller ID spam-callers, but not after the first date!

    [–]writerlylesbian 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    It was really a lot. Later, at a reasonable time when it wasn't 5 am, I asked her why she had texted me that early and told her that it wasn't okay, and she was like, "but that's when I get up. And I text everyone I know when I get up." Just...What can you even do with that?