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[–][deleted] 11 insightful - 2 fun11 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 2 fun -  (8 children)

No gay men allowed in the club! Lol. They were the sweetest guys too. She was really outrageously man-hating. Like, girl, these are our brothers, they made a mistake on the night, their lesbian friend is waiting for them. It’s FINE. She was not fine

[–]Dykexmachina 12 insightful - 2 fun12 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

I don't understand lesbians that don't like gay men. I've never met a gay guy I haven't liked. I have my feminist views but they're based on reason. You have to know how to navigate life without blowing up at inconsequential bs lol.

[–]just_lesbian_things 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Dislike is a strong word, but I just don't have anything in common with them, I think. Most of the gay men I've known prefer the company of bihet women or other men. In the few mixed spaces I've been in, I've gotten the general impression that gay men didn't like lesbians very much. Not genuine hatred or anything, but I get the sense they preferred if the club was full of gay men instead, and that we were raining on their parade, so to speak. I also personally dislike lesbians who bring men, regardless of their sexual orientation, into lesbian only spaces. I wouldn't be so put off as to voice my opinion, but I definitely wouldn't be thrilled about it. Men have spaces everywhere; leave the guy at the door.

[–][deleted] 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I’ve met a few I didn’t like, but it was because they were shallow, mean, and fake. Most are sweeties.

[–]SteppenSlut 9 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

We made the same mistake on New Years. Instead of a lesbian space it was gay men and drag, and we were the only women there. They were all super cool and nice though. We had our picture taken for a magazine then ubered to the regular lesbian bar instead a few blocks away. If anyone was mad at our presence nobody showed it. It was just good ole gay happiness there!

[–][deleted] 11 insightful - 2 fun11 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

We used to share bathrooms in the mixed gay bar in my city, things were not insane like they are now and gay people usually went out of their way to be welcoming to other gays. I had some of the most hilarious chats in BATHROOMS with gay men, some of them became best friends. I think maybe we trusted people to respect the community too much and then let everyone in and now we are getting booted, lol.

It used to be exactly like your experience. Every so often there would be some catty person getting mad, but most people were chill

[–]SteppenSlut 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Dude. That sounds so nice. I bet come next New Years it’s going to be different. I haven’t been to a lesbian or gay bar since then due to covid but I’m sure it’s going to be a lot different. That really sucks.

[–][deleted] 9 insightful - 3 fun9 insightful - 2 fun10 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

The best thing about it was that all of us homos could easily clock the creepy straights and you could look around and see various homos ready to get frosty on them. Lol. Homos loved other homos around, but we got rid of the “tourists” real quick. Lol. Oh man, I miss that

Getting Deb and Steve, the bouncers, to take out the trash. Lol

You will never see a more miserable face in your life than a gay man trapped between a bunch of bridesmaids at the bar having their friend’s bachelorette party. We all HATED THAT SHIT