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[–]112223sps 18 insightful - 2 fun18 insightful - 1 fun19 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

I feel exactly the same as you. Finding just a normal woman seems totally impossible, even more so now with the virus. By punching up I'm guessing you mean thinking you're in a higher 'league' than you really are? Honestly (and this is going to sound asshole-ish and probably get me some hate lol) if you're in good shape and have a decent face you're definitely in the higher tier looks wise when it comes to lesbians, simply because the obesity rate in the lesbian community is crazy high. Yeah I know, I'm a jerk for saying this, whatever. Haha

I'm also not willing to lower my standards, because really I don't think my standards are very high to begin with. Have some things in common and get along well, be attractive to me. That's literally it, and even that feels hopeless. Don't lower your standards so much that you settle for someone you don't really like, that isn't going to be fair to either of you. I think I have a decent idea of my attractiveness level, definitely not from me judging myself since I've had horrible self esteem for so long, but judging by what others have said to me I'm good looking. Regardless of that, everyone should always 'punch up', because you never know who might find you attractive.

[–]arlyparly[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah, exactly that. And yes, there were a lot of obese women on there too. I'm pretty much the same as you. Get along well, have some things in common and be attractive to me. That's it. I'm at a point in my life where I'm not going to settle. Fingers crossed it gets better but good to know that others feel the same.