Closeted DL guys- they don’t see trans men as men and try to alleviate their own homo-shame by telling themselves “I’m not really gay bc this is basically a woman right?” These guys almost always go out of their way to make certain you know they think of you as not real.

Nope, those are opposite-sex-attracted men. You're real, all right-- real women.

Using very obviously feminine coded terms for your anatomy, especially if you've made it clear you hate it. Stuff like "clit" or "pussy."

Those aren't "feminine coded" terms, those terms refer to female anatomy.