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[–]IridescentAnacondastrictly dickly 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

There are all kinds of angles here, but the one I'm interested in is the expectation of unconditional love.

Unconditional love does not exist between adults. It may exist between parent and child but that's it. For adults, there are always conditions.

To expect otherwise is to not be in touch with reality, and thus ultimately to suffer deeply.

[–]HelloMomo 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Around the start of covid, my relationship with my bestfriend since childhood ended. I do think it was unconditional on my end (although I guess not her end). But through that, I realized that unconditional love really has virtually nothing to person in question. If nothing they could do would change anything, it becomes very divorced from them. And then doesn't really have much to do with them anymore; its not about them at that point. And I think that makes it less meaningful.