Women's IssuesMan whines like a little brat because his wife doesn’t want him to transition during her pregnancy. states “i want to dissociate through her whole pregnancy until i can have my estrogen”

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[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

There's an "at best" at the beginning of the sentence quoted in the title and some fairly important surrounding context. He isn't as terminally narcissistic as those omissions make him seem. Still self-absorbed and primarily self-focused, however.

Either way, it's a terrible idea to have a baby with this going on. That's who neither of these two seem to be thinking about—the future kid. It's already gambling with another's life to have kids at all, much less also gambling that you have no idea how you are going to be as a parent because you're doing experiments on yourself at the same time.

[–]NutterButterFlutterStill waving into the void 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I noticed that too, at first he starts out talking about both his wife and himself, and then devolves into only what he thinks and needs. After his wife recently said she wants him to wait until after the baby is born, it's all him-him-him and there's nothing about why she said that or what her feelings are.

Saw this at the end too:

I really thought we could do this and have a happy half-trans lesbian family, but now we're in the middle of it, I'm miserable

[–]MarkJeffersonTight defenses and we draw the line 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

So many transing susceptible people are very inwardly focused. No wonder parents are advised to saddle their ROGD kids with some responsibility; Something external to care for and attend to in order to get them out of navel gazing. And I heard it kinda works for these types of trans. It can explain why most dysphoria tends to go away by adulthood. Increased responsibility, ambitions, and independence gives people something to balance out the hyper focus on oneself.

Of course, the flip side of it exists too, in which one can focus on too much of what other people think about their natural behavior, and that's why they trans. They're always thinking of how they can change themselves to satisfy the needs and desires of other people. And if they just thought of what they themselves wanted for once, they would be dandy. It seems like a nice balance between "selfishness" and "selflessness" is ideal.