Coming out isn't an enjoyable experience for (I would think) anyone. At the worse end of the spectrum, you lose all your family and friends and can end up homeless. At the absolute best, nothing really changes and life continues as it did except now you're able to let go of some stress that was only there because you didn't know whether those around you would be accepting, which is bad.

So at best, you let go of some stress and at worst you lose everything. This isn't a party or a game as all these TRAs seem to think it is. Coming out isn't like deciding to pick up a new hobby or career. You throw a fun party when you get accepted to a good university or hired at a great company to work for. Not when you finally admit a truth about yourself to those around you.

And what about people who don't need to come out because everyone can just tell that they're not straight by interacting with them to any degree? They don't get to come out, people just look at them and think "Oh, that person is gay," at which point a coming out event is just a confirmation of what others already suspected.

These people always trivialize what being gay is actually like and turn it into a game. It's always so absurd and the fact that anyone thinks the trans community isn't inherently homophobic is awful.