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[–]HelloMomo 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I think a lot of women (and gay men perhaps) internalize their inability to get sex.

I suspect just about everyone feels that way sometimes. Everyone is lonely and horny sometimes. Everyone is exhausted and frustrated with dating sometimes. Just that women and gay men are more sympathetic figures, and they're allowed to complain about it in a way that straight men aren't. Which I suspect harms them too — if they could be openly frustrated on occasion without that being vilified, maybe there'd be a few less incels.

How to be frustrated without feeling entailed — I'm not quite sure where to cut the line. For me personally, I tend to feel like fate owns me a better plotline, rather than feeling that my positional love interests owe me anything.