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[–]JulienMayfair 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I have a gay friend who has Asperger's, and he was with a partner for several years who finally left him because my friend finds actual sex acts kind of repulsive. I saw it early because we dated briefly almost 30 years ago, and sex for him was mutual masturbation followed by IMMEDIATELY getting into the shower to wash off.

If you haven't encountered it directly, you might not believe it. Some autistic people REALLY do not like physical contact with others.

So I would suspect that queerplatonic probably means, "I'm autistic, and this is as intimate as I can bear getting with another person."

I mean, we know there's a big crossover population between trans and autism.

[–]Horror-SwordfishI don't get how flairs work 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah, my husband is actually on the Autism Spectrum and he has some sensory issues - thankfully for me, sex is not something he has issues with (frankly, he wants it too much as far as I'm concerned), but you should see how crazy he goes if his shirt is a little tight and is touching his skin.

It doesn't surprise me that there exist people that find the actual sex act repulsive, but you'd think that, rather than inventing a new identity, they'd just say, "I'm autistic, and this is as intimate as I can bear getting with another person." Because 9 times out of 10, that's what they're going to have to say anyway when they tell someone they're interested in a queerplatonic relationship.