Everywhere I go I see "she/they" gals when it comes to lesbians or bisexual women (if you're into movies/shows/comics/mangas etc communities or fandoms in general, or even a little bit "artsy" that's practicaly all you'll see), so I feel you. I was lucky enough to have found a couple of people that can listen to my rant online and irl (i tend to not speak about trans stuffs anymore tho), and I am a person they can come to rant when they need it too because they feel safe enough to do so... And I haven't found them by looking for them, strangely enough. We just vibed... So maybe, fuck all that shit and talk with people you vibe with regardless of their sexuality and you'll find out some of them aren't consumed by this trans ideology and even find it shitty/laughable. I know that's hard... But you can do this. And there's online communities too, like this one, where you can find people that relate to you.