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[–][deleted] 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

There are gay men and hetero women doing this too, even in this video, but men should speak to those atrocities.

(1) Back when I identified as a straight male and I was in a heterosexual relationship, getting a carry-out with my ex was as stereotypical as it can get. So now that I identify as a woman, do both of us sit silently not really saying what we want? Do we take turns being the crazy one?

(2) If you have ever seen a picture of a hot girl and your first thought was, "holy shit, I am gay. Wait, no I am not". Your first thought may have been correct because you might be a transbian.

Misogyny and incel combined. Emotionally manipulative free-loaders who don't know how to be in a fulfilling and equal relationship, and won't even try. They can't and don't do the work on themselves to be content and happy because women are perceived as "easy mode". Instead, they conform and change rather than being true to themselves and fighting against the erasure of reality.

It's the hard opposite of man-hating feminists. It's extreme for both, and sad, honestly. These are radical outliers, and they're becoming the mantra and perceived as normal. Neither are.

These are my thoughts from the first 3 minutes of this video. The remaining 12 minutes are probably going to inspire more, but I leave it for separate comments.

[–][deleted] 17 insightful - 2 fun17 insightful - 1 fun18 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Sorry straight women I was dating, you were in a lesbian relationship. So that's something to talk about in therapy this week.

I thought gender identity was about you, not the other person? So why is the woman you're with now a lesbian? Why aren't you honoring her sexuality? Why are you gleeful about her pain and being uncomfortable with this new label?

Maybe because you hate women and want to cause them pain so you can be better than them? It's not about sexuality or personal feelings at all, it's about being abusive and narcissistic.

My penis changes the meaning of everything!

Well, there we are.

[–][deleted] 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Would you date someone who is trans? Would you date someone who is black? Would you date someone who is fat? Would you date someone who is disabled?

NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. A polite and sensitive "no thank you" is what fellow humans deserve. I date who I want to, for any reason, and I don't owe you or anyone else more. No one is obligated to receive my deeper feelings or explanations, and it's actually really sick-in-the-head that you're judging yourself and other people because of what you want from me. You should take better care of yourself.

[–]xanditAGAB (Assigned Gay at Birth) 5 insightful - 7 fun5 insightful - 6 fun6 insightful - 7 fun -  (1 child)

yeah but a fat black disabled transman sounds hot

[–][deleted] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

lmao

[–][deleted] 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think the main concern that people have in regards to dating a trans person is that they won't have the genitals that they expect. But I think that people are more than their genitals.

Good for you Riley J. Penis, and all the rest of you shills. All of us normal people think that others are more than their genitals too, but we realize that biology and sexual compatibility is important in a relationship.

You're the ones labeling everyone by their genitals and obfuscating what relationships mean by creating a million labels. We're all totally fine with what we have. You're the ones promoting "girl dick" and "vagina owner", not us.

I think that you can feel attraction to someone without knowing what is between their legs.

Also true, but attraction does not equal sexuality. I've been attracted to gay men, does that mean I'm no longer a bi woman? Does that mean I'm a gay man? I think that just means I'm attracted to men, and those gay dudes happened to physically fall into my "type". Nothing more.

it really feels like you are reducing people to their genitals

Wrong. You are. You are deciding that the features of others are what make YOU a man or a woman and YOU a certain sexuality.

You know how I act with those gay dudes I think are attractive? I tell them they're hot and amazing, and also encourage them to go get theirs. I listen to them and support them. I believe their struggles in finding themselves and the man of their dreams, and be there if or when their heart is broken. I look beyond superficial appreciation, and I don't try to become or change them. I am their friend and supporter, and we both teach each other how to be better people and live honestly.

[–]xanditAGAB (Assigned Gay at Birth) 10 insightful - 2 fun10 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Do we take turns being the crazy one?

He's permanently the crazy one

[–]Hannibalboy93 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

The majority always colonizes the minority. My identity as a gay man has been reduced down to a straight woman feeling like me. Lesbian has been reduced down to a straight man feeling like a girl, so much for being born that way. And if we don't redefine what it means to be gay for them, then we are the bad guys, inclusion at our expense. I can't remember the last time I was rainbow flag without the gifting colors on it.

[–]Rage-Xion 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

"I knew I was lesbian when I got a boner watching girls kissing in a movie" Urgh