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[–]PenseePansyBio-Sex or Bust 18 insightful - 1 fun18 insightful - 0 fun19 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I mean, when you're in a sexual relationship... genitals are pretty goddamn important. Cuz, know what? If it's ENTIRELY a matter of liking their personality... then that's a friend, i.e., someone with whom you have a NON-sexual relationship. It's physical attraction that makes the difference. Which is based on someone's sexual characteristics: primary (genitals) and secondary (everything else related to either maleness or femaleness).

This also demonstrates once again why establishing bisexuality as a sexual orientation is essential, not only for bi people, but for gay people-- because it makes such bad-faith arguments against exclusive same-sex attraction a lot harder. "Oh, no, that'd be attraction to both sexes; only bisexuals experience that. I'm homosexual, so I don't, and in fact can't." Clarifying who we are simultaneously clarifies who you guys are: that you're defined not just by your same-sex attraction, but by your lack of opposite-sex attraction. Because if the latter didn't apply... you'd be bisexual. Which, as a sexual orientation, isn't something you can become; it's something that you either are, or are not.

Yeah, I know you shouldn't even have to say this... but such is the world we currently live in :(