avoid people that looks like they want to get extra attention, i know we shouldn't judge a book by it's cover but playing safe is the way to go. about the pronouns... that's a tough one. a "call me whatever you want" will have you ending up in the they/them realm... but telling she/her means you "identify with a gender" wich is ... dumb since you're just born in a body and you're dealing with it. so... you can't really win, and if you push back their ideology they will get mad at you and you will be labeled as a transphobe i guess. i personaly am in the "they/them" realm if i interact with those annoying jackasses (bc i tell them to call me whtvr inspires their dumb asses), wich makes me roll my eyes but in "their langage" that's the most "human away from stereotypes" thing you can actually be so... yeah... and when they talk to me about "queer" stuff or whatever i straight out play dumb. like what's "a queer" ? in wich way are you using that word ? oooh i see, okay let me forget about what you've just said and play dumb once again the next time you try to talk to me about that. or straight out change subject/not respond/look at the void/smile at nothing.

i don't really know how you can manage to set boundaries except by avoiding them like your life depends on it and not responding to their bs.

(so many edits i cant write proper english sorry haha)